stressed and negative thoughts about being a financial burden to family

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m not able to sleep .i just started thinking like my family has spent too much on my education.but my salary is just hand to mouth.m not able to help them. and by the time my salary will increase then i get marry and they have to spend too much on marriage and after marriage my salary will be taken by husband.so m feeling like i had never done any financial help to my family instead i always made finanacial burden on them. m sad

wantpeace

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wantpeace
how can i sleep
wantpeace
no one is there to solve my problem
Zoya Ahmad
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Hey! I am right here, you are not a burden on anyone. I can understand that you want to help your family. But trust me you will be able to support them. You can have a mutual agreement with your husband that you would like to support your family.
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wantpeace
he will not gonna make any agreement as he thinks you will not remain part of your farher family and you have to give all salary to me.
wantpeace
But same is not true for him as his sister started working and he said we will take all her salary and use that in her marriage because before marriage her salary is our salary and after marriage her salary is her husband salary
wantpeace
he knows my salary will increase till the time we will marry and then he will take salary. i will never be able to help my family who spent a lot on my education
Zoya Ahmad
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Did you guys actually talk about it? This isn’t right. You should assert for your rights.
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wantpeace
i talked with my boyfriend that i will buy car for dowry from installments of my salary but he said if ur brother want to give you car then it should be from his money not yours because after marriage i dont want any loan on ur salary..that will be completely mine ..and he abused me a lot..he even used word randi that i hate the most and he knows that and blocked me..and i have alreay taken stand for him in my family to marry only to him.now what will i do
Zoya Ahmad
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I am so sorry you had to go through this. Talk to your family that you made the wrong choice. He is already being toxic to you, disrespectful towards you, planning to take wwhat is yours. And pressure of dowry. All of this is way too much, his behaviour towards yoh is just not acceptable, he will never be able to respect you after marriage. Being unmarried is better than being in a bad marriage. They are your family talk to them, tell them that he has been abusive and you want to change your decision, it’s your life.
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