stressed because of difficult attitude of parents

Depression

feelinglike a complete loser.dont feel like doing anything at all.i wish people justt told me that everything will be fine.when ever I even try to share my problem with my mom I feel like she is very very criticaland judgemental.she keeps reminding me of the mistakes I have done in my past and says that's the reason that my life is like that.i have a goodjob...maybe not as good as my family would have wanted..but i earn enoughto stand on my own feet and not depend on anyonefor money forany reason.my parentshave been tryingto fix my marriage..an arranged marriage...but when nothing clicks important been told it's because of the faults in me. whenever I dislike a proposal I'm being told that I must learn to adjust...and that there are many many faults in me as well since childhood I have continuously been compared to my cousins...and nowas well that continues...i feel very small and useless...i feel I can never make my parentsor anyone happy...feel scared all the time ..dont know what to do whom to talk to

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2 Answers

keyjiaybi

First, you are not a loser. We are not. Second, I am glad that you are strong enough to stand on your own. Third, if you think people even if it is your parent talk negatively that affects your mental health, try to ignore it. I know it won't be easy but maybe a little distraction through doing a simple hobby would do. Do not let other people control your way of living. It's okay to get sway sometimes. It's normal. It's normal to get affected by someone we love. But again, don't let youself to let other people lead your life. They not build you to control to control your life. You are not a product of them and how they treat you. They are just a part of of your life whenever you make decisions. They are only there to witness your ups and downs. No one is entitle to control someone's life as we are not the creators of each other. Lastly, It must be hard for you to hear those words from the people you love but always remember that you are right, "everything will be fine".

nicerice

Have you tried talking to your parents regarding this, how their comments negatively affect you and how you have been feeling? Talking helps a lot, try to come on common terms, tell them negative encouragement doesn't help. marriage is a lifetime commitment, adjustment will happen but not before marriage.

I am not fit for anyone

Unloving

Need someone to talk to!!

not able to accept my reality !!