Continuous thinking about an object, creates attachment to the object. Attachment creates the desire to posses that thing, and desire (if unfulfilled) creates anger.
Anger hypnotizes the person and makes them incapable of rationality. Hypnotized and irrational, the person loses control of his mind and thoughts. One who has lost control of his mind and thoughts, soon loses his wisdom and intelligence and one who has lost his wisdom/intelligence loses everything.
This is the basic mechanism that happens for everyone. How it gets displayed varies depending on your personality.
Whenever you desire an object and get attached to it; you get angered because you don’t possess it. How that anger gets displayed differs from person to person. One who is physically strong and selfish direct the anger outwards in violence. They prefer snatching it from others and keep getting more and more violent with time until the violence totally consumes them.
One who is weak physically and emotionally directs the anger inwards. They feel they’re not as good, they’re cursed, they’re inferior, etc. Their anger is directed inwards, towards themselves only because they cannot win if they direct the anger outwards.
One who is egoistic/proud directs the anger towards circumstances. They cannot find others to be important enough to blame and cannot find themselves to be weak enough to land in a bad situation. So they blame destiny. They say it is an unfair world, or just bad luck that others have something and they don’t. This anger, directed towards something invisible is what is called as jealousy. You want what the other has, but because something else (luck, destiny) landed you in a wrong position, there is nothing you can do. You just keep cursing your luck and throw tantrum about how others get more than they deserve. That is luck.
The commonality however, is that the mind is focused on results. Something that others have and you don’t have.
First of all calm down...coz family is something that is permanent...try to communicate and find a solution after all family is that stays forever ...sb chale jayenge but family will be there