Stressed because of parent’s attention around bday

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How do you manage when your usually abusive parent tries very hard to be affectionate during your bday week and u just can't accept it because uk she will go back to being her usual self once it's over? Because she'll suddenly want to pat you and you flinch due to trauma and she goes, "Learn to be thankful. " ????

Janu

2 Answers
innocentOtter9
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Even if you are not grateful try to ignore it. You can just smile to her gesture say thanks and then limit your contact with them.
Janu
That's exactly what I've been doing!! But since it is so unnatural...sometimes I end up flinching.. and when I try to limit my contact, they say that they're trying so hard to make me happy.