Stressed because of partner’s alcohol dependence

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I am in a relationship and we have in realtion for 3 yrs. When my college was opened and came to another place for study so our relationship is a long distance but he started to use alcohol since the day when I came to college. He was using continuously and I told him to stop using it but he didn't listen after drinking he will make fight with me. I has been 8 months he is continuing this habit I don't know what to do and he is not listening to my words and he is cheating me. I don't know what to do I am alone I don't have anyone to say about my feelings I love him so much 😥. Anyone please tell me how can I control his drinking habit and how can I make him know the value of me . please 🙏 tell me

Achuz

21 Answers
hushedBasmati3
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I think you should talk to him being assertive about this thing and how it has been bothering you. If he keeps on getting angry on you then you should actually consider your self respect first. You don’t deserve to be cheated and be treated like this. Take a break.
Achuz
I had talk to him so many times but he is not understanding me or what I am saying. He give imp to alcohol not to me or in realtion
hushedBasmati3
Do you think you will be able to bear with this for a long peridot of time.
Achuz
No I can't I am handling this for 8 months I am fed up of it I don't know what to do
adoringCake5
2
Alcohol is a protein type I.e. people use alcohol become addicted to it as food , ask him to use aloevera plant gel & drink with it , use neem water once and vitamin E capsule daily
Achuz
With alovera gel what ??
adoringCake5
3
Yes mix water in aloevera gel and freez it like ice
Achuz
Ok will it work
adoringCake5
2
It help liver to digest it
adoringCake5
2
Yeah aloevera gel is anti toxic it help to flush toxic from liver & use of neem water help fighting after math which create cancer.
Achuz
Ok thank you so much ❣️
adoringCake5
3
Actually medical science is a business to society , so business is what we can't understand.
adoringCake5
3
My pleasure. 🥰
jhaynedoe
2
"How can I control his drinking habit." Girl that whole statement is a red flag for him and YOU. Why do you think you're stronger than the chemical reactions taking place in his brain? You realize addiction is a disease. What you're asking is no different than "How can I control his kidney disease or his cancer." Then you'll be depressed when you fail at a goal that was never even within your power to reach. And take it from someone who was an alcoholic for five years. I didn't stop drinking until Feb 2021. That's when my new partner told me he had been hiding all the wine since Fall, when he noticed I was an alcoholic 🤦🏾‍♀️
Achuz
I didn't understand ??
adoringCake5
2
Addiction is a habit & we all are addicted to some thing food , cloth , shopping, chatting, sex, these things give pleasure to us & alcho,smoking, & many other things are justchanging habit like sex ,cloth & other a person habitual to sex worker can change habit to alcohol or any other it doesn't provide you to say this habit is bad as it is on change to some other thing.
Achuz
Ok
adoringCake5
3
And also we use things to our benefit. Maybe the person using it is having a benefit of that ask person to tell loss you will understand benefit.
Achuz
I have a doubt using alcohol continuous can change person character ??? Will they become more angry to others ?
adoringCake5
3
Alchol provide relaxation to brain nerves it help brain 🧠 to calm down after consuming it body get a energy which convert accordingly, like in party Dance, alone thought,in bed sex,if person is suffering from any stress it convert into anger ,we should calm and listen person as it's a medicine also ,violence & anger comes from alcohol only when we start pointing person it's a system ,what ever we start something we should know how to stop as blaming any one can produce anger be sure you are correct while blaming or you can trust person.
adoringCake5
2
And using anything continuous without proper process can harm .....like eating without workout can make you fat ,over weight and all........

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