stressed due to career options and family pressure

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stressed due to career options and family pressure

Hello, I'm 24 years old girl. I've always been good at academics until now. I aspire to become a professor. Initially, I wasn't serious about it but since last one year I dedicated myself towards clearing NET exam. I studied hard but unfortunately couldn't get past the cutoff in my chosen subject which eventually made me disappointed and sad. I felt like I'm lost, helpless and clueless about how to start it all over again. Moreover, my parents have started to tell me that they don't have any hopes from me now and that like this I'll never be able to achieve anything in life.. Gradually these things have taken toll on my mental state and now I feel totally lost like a ship stuck in a storm.. Hopeless, sad, depressed and disappointed with myself and people around me. My only go to place is music and my boyfriend who has always stood their for me but now I feel I would lose him someday if I don't settle in my career and eventually fail to convince my parents! Every day feels like a long neverending journey as if I will never be able to get through it.. I feel like I'm stuck in a dark place where their is no ray of hope.. I've become less energetic because of which I'm facing constant scolding sessions at home and repeated comments like I can never do anything in life and that I'm hopeless which make me feel more helpless and depressed..all I can do in the moment is either shout back or keep mum silently screaming inside. I really want to get out of this dark phase and get back on track.. I desparately need a counselling but lack funds and support. Please help me out.. Pleasee!

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Zoya Ahmad

Hey! Thanks for reaching out. I can understand it must be really difficult to deal with constant negativity and it surely is impacting you soo much. First of all you need to accept that it’s okay to not get what you wanted in the first go, you should never loose hope.

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You have prepared fornit before you can do it again if you really want to, get your books and start sitting with it you will slowly get how to start. Solve past year question papers and just keep practicing your subject. You will get through this time. Keep working hard, if you think about the result already it will hinder your studies. Why don’t you you try to talk to your parents assertively and very politely that you don’t like the way they have been saying this to you and it’s effecting you, ask them to give you one more chance. Ask them to support you emotionally that they trust you. Have an alternative plan if not net then what? Discuss it with your family. Have an action plan and devote yourself to it. Your boyfriend and you share a romantic relationship it has nothing to do with your career. He has stood by your side he will stand by you forever. Don’t generalise no one will leave you. Motivate yourself and set realistic goals. What else have you been feeling lately?

Thankyou for reaching me out.. I'm really glad you took out time to make me feel better :) Lately, things have just seemed to get out of control.. Like time is running out of my hands! Moreover, certain petty issues with family have only got worsened with each passing day! I've grown more easily annoyed, frustrated by small small issues at home (to which my family just sees it as a negatively changed behavior of mine without actually trying to know the core causes of it), grown distant with my friend circle because I feel messed up seeing them slowly achieving what they always wished for.. Talking to them only makes me feel more useless and like a loser.. I know I shouldn't be feeling such.. Everybody has their own pace and time but it's hard to cope up and be consistent these days.

I can understand that it must be difficult to cope but I would request you to be consistent, even if it requires your conscious effort but make it one of your goal that you have to be consistent. Communication is the key to any problem try to sit with your family and explain your situation ask them about their feelings why have they been behaving this way. What are their expectations then try to set a plan for yourself and try to mutually come on a common ground of agreement with your family. It’s okay to be distant with your friends for a while if you aren’t feeling good about it. First try to have a control over things then you can start catching up with them again. You must have one or true friends who try to give the space you need try to stay connected with them. Give yourself time. Accept whatever is around and start all over again. Give yourself another chance.

Yeah I will try to do that on my part.. I hope everything will be fine soon

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