Hey! Thanks for reaching out. What kind of fear are you experiencing? Please elaborate a little.
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lostuniverse
i fear that my fiance past relationship is troubling him and it might affect the love between us ... as we aree sure about we want to get married but simultaneously the past memories are hurting him and i fear that he might not fall thsr again
Zoya Ahmad
Why don’t you talk to him about him, ask him to express everything about his past relationship, get a closure and then start with a blank slate with you.
You can help him outgrow this feeling.
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lostuniverse
he gets stressed when i talk about that
he dont speak much and m afraid about him
lostuniverse
help me out what all i can avoid which might hurt him or ignite him towards that direction . coz i know it will take time to heal and i need to help him to heal , he says that he loves me but he dont express ...which gives me anxiety... i asked him too he says give some time
lostuniverse
And simultaneously I know that girl is still talking to him ... which bothers me coz this might develop guilt in him and guilt pushes you to wrong direction
Zoya Ahmad
I think you should ask him to stop talking to her as this is affecting his current relationship, he needs time to heal give him that.
Tell him that you trust him and try to do so. Be his support system, be there for him as a friend as a partner.
Don’t feel insecure.
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lostuniverse
wont it look insecure if i say that dont talk to that person ....
bcoz may be that person is also in a grief
lostuniverse
And as you said to give time to heal I will do that ... But m afraid like I don't know how much time it usually takes for a person to heal
Zoya Ahmad
You guys are in a relationship you can talk to him about your insecurities.
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lostuniverse
he is a sort of person who gets irritaing when ever somebody tries to impose acts .. he feels like controlled .
so what I felt was to let him do what he want me... it has to come from his heart till then i will wait
lostuniverse
but in this process i am developing fear of being left out
fear of hurting him
fear of losing him
if what i am doing is right then suggest me overcome fear and wait for him rather being impatient
Zoya Ahmad
Yoo don’t have to impose anything on him, you just have to talk to him and tell him how you feel. This constant insecurity isn’t healthy for your self esteem.
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lostuniverse
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hmm i will .. thank you for being ther
lostuniverse
hello miss zoya
i worked on it... sothe problem is he is unable bcoz he is under guilt and the way she is behaving is pushing him towards grief ...
i asked him that let me talk to her ! but he said she might not want to talk to you
lostuniverse
wht do you think that will it be right to talk to her and plead her to let go rather stretching it .. . bcoz i cant see him affected
Zoya Ahmad
Tell him that it is affecting your current relationship and he should take a stand what he wants.
Because this is clearly keep you insecure towards it.
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lostuniverse
i told him he is trying i know it will take time ...
but the complete depends on that girls ability to move on ...
lostuniverse
is this any good idea to talk with her
or you think the condition might worsen might hit her ego ....
Zoya Ahmad
It’s not a good idea to talk to her, because it’s your partner’s call not her.
The relationship issues should be sorted b/w you two.
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lostuniverse
yes thank you
so right now we are in long distance he will be coming before marriage
and i want to build things bck between us
what is the average time i shud talk in day with him jo uske ly mentally supporting ho and annoying bhi na ho ...
Zoya Ahmad
Talk to him. Make things clear.
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