There are two choices in this world:- 1) Either you get up and get going and start working on yourself. 2) Or you just start playing the blame game for your worries and guilts. I would never consider the person with 2) mentality, rather I would pick someone up who is scarred enough and still keeps the 1) mentality because nothing's badass than a person who've been hurt enough and still wants to get up and run..!!