Trauma of past and abusive relationship

Depression

Relationship Issues

Hello, I'm a divorcee, it was a abusive relationship and finally with my family's support i was able to take a decision and end it. It took me almost seven years to get over it. a year back i met a guy who seemed to be very descent and nice. He is younger than me and we met through a common friend. He knew everything about my past even before we met. After few meetings he started showing interest in me. A genuine one. After talking to my friends about him even they felt he is a nice guy. We were there for each other through every thick and thin in this whole year. But there's a problem he though very nice has severe anger issues. When he is angry he can't think straight. Even before he has kindof man handled me and misbehaved but then he wud cry like a baby and try his best to make up for his behavior. Yesterday was again a day when he was very angry and upset due to his financial issues. Over silly things he kept on abusing me and fought with me. Later he came to apologize to which i didn't open the door as i was very upset. He came in through climing from terrace and again started abusing and fighting with me for not letting him in my house. And then suddenly he slapped me... so hard that even today i have marks on my cheek. Then out of anger i tore my hand written notes to which he got even more furious and beat me mercilessly. He hit my head(on backside) so hard that for a while it completely blacked out. Then i ran out in open terrace where a man saw me yelling and crying and i shook my hand for help so that this man doesn't hit me more. To which he got so upset. Called me attention seeker and started smoking. I requested him to leave the house. Even my neighbors started coming out and see what was happening due to the noise. Once he realised that he left. And guess what he blocked me everywhere before i cud even think of doing anything as such. Now here i am again wid a broken heart broken relationship. My past gave me scars which took forever to heal. This man swearing to be all different whom i really loved from my heart has again broken my heart into pieces. I just don't understand what should i do. M dying inside. Why did i fall in love. Why did i even trust him. Why is this happening to me all the time.. why

Rimmi

4 Answers

Zoya Ahmad

Hey! Thanks for reaching out. I am sure it must be difficult for you. But don’t let such a person ruin your self esteem and your life. You can report him.

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excitedTomatoe7

I'm so sorry for what you've been through. But don't blame yourself for trusting him. He never deserved your love. Take your time to grieve, cry it out. But when it's all over, you need to start with the moving on phase, which might take a while. But you can do it. Focus on yourself. Focus on your work. Hang out with friends. Pursue a new hobby. What you've been through was an abusive relationship. Take this as a lesson to not trust anybody easily. Also, you should lodge a complaint against him if you can do that. Use this time to love yourself. You'll get over him and find yourself in a better place

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zywieraj

Very sad to hear ur story dear. What I want to tell u is, u were not wrong to choose such a man. U loved the man He was then. No one can predict the future.He was wrong to have acted such barbaric way. I think u have already heard lots of suggestions. No life experience is a lost cause. And u r a strong woman because u overcame many difficulties and yet here u r still revealing ur sadness even though u r the one who is hurt the most. To have the courage to do that is unparalleled. Hats off to u dear for always getting up after falling. Grieving and Healing will take time u already know that. Take ur time, love and cherish urself more.. also just don't regret the love u felt or the good moments u shared...or choices u made, Because dear ur feelings that u felt then they are ur honest emotions, never look down on urself. U just loved, he should be wallowing in misery because he lost a wonderful woman who could have been his only saving grace.

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