Trauma of past event

Question

i did something terrible when I was a teen. i had to face the consequences as well at that time and it had completely destroyed me. it was in 2013. i had shared my private pictures with a guy I was talking to back then, and he circulated it everywhere. i was devastated. thankfully, my family didn't know about it. I anyway tried to heal myself, and I was doing okay after a couple of years. today, in 2022, my fears are returning back to me. I'm scared, what if my personal pictures get circulated again? i know it's been 8 years, but I'm unable to get rid of these scary thoughts... i have no one to talk about it... is my fear baseless? I can't sleep thinking about what will happen if the same situation arises again...

strongenough · Answer

if that person really loves u he will understand ur insecurities and don't want them in the first place

JoyKim · Answer

it has been eight years, I don't think there is need to panic, if your secret has been safe for eight years what makes you think that it will come out to light now

CagedinGold123 · Answer

What you have went through is indeed very painful for you. I would suggest you to instead of fearing, change your identity. You can report for cyber crime, or contact some expert in hacking to remove your photos from all over the place. Such incidents happen with many however, if we keep ourselves stuck in the past, we will never be able to move forward. So keep it in past and move on. to calm yourself, I'll suggest to change your identity such as your style, your dressing, your tone etc so no one notices that those pictures were yours.

tunamayo · Answer

No, your fear isn't baseless and it's totally understandable that this anxiety keeps coming back. These events could be very traumatizing. But just know that it was your past. If something  had to happen, it would have happened already. It's been 8yrs. So try to relax. Forgive yourself for the mistake you made and let it go now. If you need to talk, I m here :)  Ik it's not easy as it sounds but ik you can move past it and build a safe place for yourself!

softheart · Answer

thank you for the replies. the thing is, i had found out that the person did it to have fun and to bully me, I'm scared what if he does it again... although it's been 8 years... but I can't just get rid of those thoughts...

ooch · Answer

hy

potatoandme · Answer

hi! this gives me anxiety😭 i remember i shared some private pics to some guy too. i didn't try to delete it cuz i trusted him and now we aren't talking

strongenough · Answer

you don't have to do it if it doesn't feel right to u .u won't feel that kind of insecurity when u are with the right person

lazydonut4 · Answer

hey listen, this is a cyber crime! you can file a online report but don't let such people do this shit. they will do this to someone else.

softheart · Answer

After all of you shared your opinions that day, i tried to calm myself down. I was doing better for a while, but it all came again, and it's stronger this time. I'm failing to handle it...

Frustrating

help me please

how do I change for the better?