Hi! Thank you for reaching out.
Could you perhaps give more context?
Is it with everyone? Or some specific people in your life.
Do these urges come up when you are angry, upset,baad, etc?
Well! mostly happen with everyone.... i just feel like they are not getting my problem or my happyness.... i hate crowd and show off people but my mom force me to be persent at that sitution.... and i hate when people force me even when i say no .... they get upset and i feel sad, like why i am here with this person .... i respect others opinion but sometime i feel like people on one goal think that i am available for there need and they can treat me as they like .... i dont know but when i observer this behavior and everybody say you need to put your head down sometime for some people it hurt my self esteem .....
It sounds like you struggle with boundaries.
You want to say no. But find that other people don't respect it, or they simply ask things of you that you wish they didn't.
This makes you very upset. To the point that you want to hurt them.
Have I got this right? Have I missed out anything?
Yeah! i am struggling with boundaries sometime i feel like where to draw boundaries and where not ...
it is confusing sometime i feel like i over do it, as some of my friends stop talking to me, i try to talk to them but it is like i cant sacrifice my priorities for others ....
Setting boundaries is easier said than done. Sometimes the struggle lies in not even knowing what you want.
Do you feel like you are very clear about what you want, don't want, what you're okay with and what you're not okay with?
Do you feel like when someone puts up a request, you're more worried about how they will feel if you say no to them? Are you worried about hurting them, or worried that they may feel rejected?
i know what i want at same time i feel worried too