unable to concentrate on studies because of looks (gained weight)

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I'm 20 years old, in 2nd year mbbs. I was under a lot of stress in my 11, 12 grade which led to doctors prescribing me meds but they made me increase almost 20kgs in 1.5year. Nothing fitted me anymore and I felt horrible about myself. My boyfriend of almost 3.5years left me right during my boards which messed up the remaining subjects and also my AIR for mbbs. I'm rn paying a lot (private seat - face value: 7L p.a but ultimately almost 9-10L p.a) and this is constantly bothering me. I feel like a huge burden on my family and I feel very insufficient. After my bf left me ( without giving proper reason) , my self confidence abt looks dropped a lot( he started dating a thin pretty 15yr old just 2 days after our break up) & due to my AIR my confidence in my studies also dropped a lot. I constantly feel like I need to lose more weight ( I've lost 10kgs since my increase- but in an unhealthy fashion) & I can't focus in my studies since I keep thinking that I anyways won't be able to do well. How do I get my confidence back in looks & studies ? I know I'm not perfect but I just want to at least like myself.

Nemo26

3 Answers

Sahitya MG

Hi nemo26. Thankyou for reaching out. Take one thing at a time. It's important for you to love and accept your self the way you are. Keep validating your self. Give compliments to your self about your features,hair,the way you dress. Make small goals for your. It's really great that you lost 10 kg. Next may be try to loose few more and with time. At the same try to build your focus on your studies also. Make a time table and stick to i. Try not to crib on your ex and past life. Move forward and look forward to new journey. You may get the right person at the right time. Only when you start loving yourself . Others will start loving you. I would also invite you to take one on one session with the expert to work on self love and boost your confidence.

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Thank you so much for the quick response. I shall try giving myself some compliments but it feels very fake right now. Im not sure how to build focus in studies sadly - I've tried the pomodoro techniques and what not but my mind keeps drifting. Unless im very tired while going to bed, i spend min 30-40mins overthinkthing which unnecessarily leads to conflicts with others and myself. I've tried a lot of group sessions for self love last year but i always ended up being inconsistent with the sessions due to clg work. Thing is, im not very open with my family & they frown upon mental health issues so i can't even use their card to access one on one help online in covid but everything seems the worst right now - especially with no friends to meet & talk to.

It's okay even if the compliments seem to be fake. But keep trying and be consistent. As I said take one thing at a time first work on one thing and then forward with another.

I am not fit for anyone

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not able to accept my reality !!