unable to cope with a break up

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I lost a very important friend, more than friend btw.. we were dating for some time, then things happened and we broke up, it was all his decision, not mine. I loved him with everything i ever had.. its been more than a year now but still some things bring back the thousands of memories. I have cut off a lot of people since we broke up. I barely talk to any one now. He never told me why he was breaking up. He just said he doesn't sees me in his future, but we shared everything as friends and even after coming in relationship. I keep overthinking, i dont know how to get out of all this mess. I am not looking forward for some response cz most of you will not even read till here, and i dont think anyone can help me. Just keeping it here.

Milkshakexxo

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Zoya Ahmad
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Hey! Thank you for reaching out. We can try to help you if you want to help yourself. I understand that breaking up or not being able to get the same affection back from your partner is difficult to deal with and becomes really hurtful. Whereas you can see this situation as a chance that he actually told you rather than dragging it to point where you both would have started hating each other. Try to accept this and talk to him, try to make peace with it and you guys can still remain friends. Distancing yourself from the world isn’t a solution. You should go out explore new things and contribute in your growth process. Try to engage in activities you loved, try to reestablish relationships with your friends.
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Milkshakexxo
wow you responded!! I thought that it is another useless site.. okay, can i ask for help, tips basically?
Zoya Ahmad
Yes definitely you can. You can even book an appointment if you feel like.
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Milkshakexxo
i am definately over him, but i dont feel happy anymore.. i dont like people. they all are mean. i live in constant mindset that everyone is talking about me and everyone hates me, and at some point it doesnt even matter. i dont want anyone to like me. i can live with that. Apart from this, my grades have been falling. i cant focus like before.. i dont like being alone like i used to, i dont know whats happening to me.
Zoya Ahmad
I think you are generalising everything on the basis of one bad experience. You should try to give yourself chance. And explore new things, rekindle friendships and try to establish trust again. You can have boundaries just to be cautious but you should keep your mind open and move ahead in life. One aspect should not be affecting other spheres of your life and for the fact career is one very important factor. Its is going to matter in the long run. Try to make a realistic schedule and study everyday. Focus on your productivity.
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Milkshakexxo
friemds are also no good.. before this breakup i have lost some friends.. major friendship breakup was with this girl, we were best buddies, at that time me and my ex were also friends, they were classmates and some quarrel occured between those two and my ex said that she is the culprit so i never talked to her again.. as the time went by i gotta know whos the real bad man behind that.. idk.. its all messed up.. sometimes i cannot get up from the bed, like im paralysed or something.. cant sleep on most nights, i go into sudden tunnel of never ending thoughts. i dont want any of it, i have moved on but it still hurts... hurts bad..
Zoya Ahmad
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You have been judging people on the basis of other’s opinion. Try to analyse the situation yourself and then take a decision. You can again try to talk to her and try to explain. You have been thinking a lot about your broken relationships that you are not able to focus on other aspects of your life. Please try to engage yourself, if the thoughts are still persistent try to maintain a thought diary. Wherein write the all the thoughts that comes to your mind. If they are negative then try to change it with a positive one and see how you feel about it now.
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Milkshakexxo
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thank you... thabks a lot.. i can agree to all of the stuff you said just here.. thanks a lot😄
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