unable to cope with studies

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unable to cope with studies

I'm a below average college student, never thought computer science would be that tough, I'm shy and have limited friends, I see my classmates enjoying as well as thriving in academics. I have low self esteem, I'm lazy and don't work hard enough to get the confidence I need to do better. There's a loop, I'm shy->dont have friends->can't enjoy my life->that makes me sad->can't study cause I'm sad->doing bad in studies makes me feel less confident. I'm in 3rd year and I think there's not enough time for me to complete all the studies I need to do, I'm feel left behind from everybody. Lately I started to feel like my thoughts aren't real, they change every second, and are complementary. I lost my purpose and goal in my life. I don't even know what exactly the problem is.

Aayushi

2 Answers
killerhealth
Well the good thing is you know what the problem is. You have to start taking small steps towards changing that, like don’t socialise a lot upfront but start talking to someone from your batch whom you’re comfortable with. Also, try to stick to your decisions and do that also slowly as well. Your in college and these are the best days of your life. Live them to the fullest and don’t be sad
hansa_shaunik
Low self esteem is crippling. What we think of ourselves, the words we use to describe ourselves can shape our entire lives, our careers, our relationships. Self esteem is based on what we do. Instead try to start from a space of self compassion. When you fail at something, be jind to yourself. Think if it like this, if you were a friend to someone who was going through something like this, how would you encourage them? Would you say the things that you say to yourself? Or would you be more compassionate, understanding and encouraging? It may also help to reframe how you view challenges. Please answer this question: when you feel that you are struggling with a topic do you give up because you feel that you don't have what it takes/ not smart enough, etc.?