Hello there, Sometimes distancing ourselves makes us realise how important the value of other person in our life. Through this you can make him realise your importance and at the same time you can access if he is really worth having your attention or you should move on. Just carefully think about everything before making any decision. You know the way, just need to look it for yourself.

Thank you for the reply. I ahve been doing this since eight months and I'm not able to figure it out and I'm losing my time.. actually four to five years of relationship I had so many flaws like I was so obsessed so I faile to give space and I realise all that so many times he said it won't be a good relationship and want to end it. Me being introverted and doesn't want to lose him so kept solving and sometimes forcing but eventually I was losing interest that only I'm fighting. Now naturally I got another person who likes me but I'm unable to decide over him. Neithr I'm able to leave my relationship and decide over nor solve the same way I used to do . To mention I'm not strong in bonds I feel that's where the problem is but I'm tired of fighting and I don't know what to choose. What if he realises my worth but something is stopping me from going back.

Can someone pls help me further in this regard. I'm going thru a lot of stress

Being in such a position is not easy. I imagine you must very pained by the position you are in. Deciding to leave or stay in a relationship is never an easy one. The longer one stays the more difficult it becomes to see clearly if it is good for us or not. I understand your pain and please know that you are not alone. I cannot tell you what to do. But taking a few things into consideration can help you decide. Firstly, what made you fight for this relationship so many times before? Do you see your partner wanting to fight for this relationship? Are you willing to leave this relationship only if another comes your way? What do you want out of a relationship? I await your response.

Thank you sooo much Joshikasharma. Those words are very clear and makes me thoughtful and I'm well aware that I shldnt chose one over the other. Even today I tried to sort out I explained why y I lost interest because I felt I was not valued. He told he is unable to solve because I consider someone else. I also assured I will leave and come provided he also should feel that HE WANTS ME because that's y I lost interest. But he never tells that or I don't think so he feels that's way. Y I'm still holding on is I'm a kind of person who don leave things or ppl easily and seeing him hurt when I was about to leave makes me haunted and unable to decide Sir. All these years he felt I won't suit him but I saved most of the times.. but when he was kind of ok with me I started losing interest because I don feel valued. Even now looks like I'm begging or fighting

Thank you @hansa mam for the reply. It's true I'm going through a hell a lot of stress and I started feeling low that I don suit anyone be it a love or a friendship.. to answer Ur questions.. I'm kind of an introverted person and my family is kinda isolated so I don have much bond with anyone when I came for love I got like someone who cares a lot so I was sooooo obsessed earlier.. but I din commit so he started moving on also my obsessed nature tortured him not getting space so many a times he wanted to break up but I kept fighting trying to change my nature did homework to change to save the relationship unable to bear the lose. When I moved to s new city I was abandoned all of a sudden he refused to talk so that I would move on. Still I fought I'm ashamed to say I fought for months and forced too.. seeing that determation he felt for me and came back.. 2. I don see him fight for my relationship ( I may be wrong because I started losing confidence over my thoughts) but he never takes any efforts to make this relationship live. Doesn't value me or makes a good move with my family nor he express his feelings si I feel insecured ( may b that's his nature still..) No, I lost interest but as I answered in the first question I'm not someone who leaves so unable to discuss this disinterest with him. Had I discussed it would have solved may be. So eventually someone who cares I feel overwhelmed but I don fall for everyone I don do that. I can't give a clear answer for this mam. Because my problem itself is this mam because I don't know if I shld stay or I shld move on. But it never depends on third person. This third person in my life is coincidence who suited me well he likes me too but I'm unable to decide on him leaving my relationship in this stake condition. Infact I got a name of cheater too from my frnds too..but I'm not one because I'm still holding on( crct me if I'm wrong) Out of a relationship I need care mam.. I'm a person who expects care and attention like any other girl and secured. I talk feminist stuff but when it comes to my guy I need him to take care of me otherwise I can manage independently mam and he needs to fight for me and have fear of losing me. Should take efforts to hold me. To mention my flaw is I don maintain good bonds mam with distance I lose bond even with family I need to learn that..