unjustified reason given for breakup

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Hii, i was in a relationship last 4.5 years and everything is perfect, yes we had small issues sometimes which is not a major problem. So one day he said never ever text me, i asked why are you behaving like this and he said that you don't follow particular routine and you don't wake up early in morning that's why I am breaking up with you. I don't know what happened but i m completely lost i don't t know how to get back him. And i am there is no 3rd person involved but what can I do, how can I patchup? It was happened on 26 April so it's already 3 weeks! Please please help me please...

Gunj@n10

10 Answers
ELFC2020
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The reason he is giving maybe good enough for a fight but not strong enough to have a break up from a 4.5 year of relationship. Maybe he was in need of you earlier and tried contacting you but you didn't respond on time which lead him to take this step. Just try to communicate with him and keep on trying. If he really loved you then he will be in pain as well. Don't just sit idle. If he is not picking now then try to call him early morning which will reflect that you are willing to invest in this relationship. Hope this helps.
Gunj@n10
@JOSHIKASHARMA exactly we didn't have an fight. Everything is suddenly happened. And i tried to talk to him, i was trying to convince him to come back we can fix it and i will change my self but he is not ready to listen to me and i talked to him for one an hour but he didn't mind. And i can't meet him i don’t know what to do all i want him to come back.... Please help me.
Gunj@n10
@ELFC2020 Yes, i text him today early morning "gud mng" he replied "gud mng and good to see you to waking up early" i replied "thnk you" and that's it. It is our first time that we are not talking for 3 weeks. What can I do..... Please help me
ELFC2020
This can be a good start. If you can show that you are changed person then your actions will speak for themselves. If routine was the actual issue then it should work otherwise problem is something else and you should ask him to communicate properly the real reason for it.
Gunj@n10
@ELFC2020 hope so.. But i can't message him every single day because if he is getting irritate than he will block me for sure.
ELFC2020
@Gunjan Good Morning msg a day won't irritate him if he is having feeling for you. If he is getting irritated even by that then you should consider other options as he may have moved on. You must try your best but don't lose your self pride.
Gunj@n10
@ELFC2020 yeah you're right, maybe it would be beneficial for me.
ELFC2020
Happy to help 😁
hansa_shaunik
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Gunj@n10, I'm sorry to hear that. You sound very hurt by this experience. From what you're saying, I understand that he wants to end things because he doesn't like the fact that you don't wake up early in the morning and that you lack routine. Is that right? Is there anything else that he has expressed as the reason?
Gunj@n10
@hansa_shaunik no ma'am, he said you don't follow a particular routine nd i want to change you but you can't change anyone that's why I am breaking up with you and he also said you aren't focused in your life i don't know why did he say, actually during lockdown we can't talk properly we talked whatsapp only before lockdown our routine and our timings are same pr yha aake m thoda busy rehne lgi ghr m to use lgne lga k m padhti ni hu or like that i don't know what to do please help me ma'am

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