wants to get out of a toxic relationship

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I've been with this guy for 7...almost 8 months now and things are so...complicated. I understand that things are pretty toxic. We've been through ups and downs together. He's has a streak of lying and manipulation me. When I told him I couldn't do it anymore, he sweet talked me, told me everything to convince me he wouldn't do it again. Told me about his childhood which explained a lot to me. Later we got into business together. I worked hard for it but him and his boss (Three partners total)has different priorities. Long story short,all of us got into a fight. Me and Calvin were supposed to leave the business. I asked him multiple times if that's what he really wanted and it's okay if he wanted to stay. We went there to get his stuff and his boss asked him to come up alone. I found out he's gonna continueto work there and I left the job. I asked him to take his bags from my place and leave. He sweet talked me into being with him. Next 2 days hes moved in there. Barely talks me to. Doesnt pick up my calls much,and said "I can't help it" everytime I was just venting to him a little. It ended in one of the biggest fights we've ever had. We said cruel things to each other.him more than me. He left and I locked the gate. Lot of threats from his side. After he leaves he calls me the next morning. Comes home and I let him in becausei didn't want my mom to be suspicious. He takes my phone and forces me to talk to him. Says that I can't break up with him and he won't let it happen. Physicallyreatrains me from taking my phone. My hand is still hurting a bit. 2 hours later he's sweet talking me into it. Makes things sexual and acts like everything is okay. I'm starting to get scared of him and what he'lldo if I say I want this to end again. I don't know how to go about this withoutmaking it a big deal. All I have in my head is to distance myself from him but one thing I realised is that he can manipulate me so easily and I don't even realise it at times. Uses his words against me. Guilts me. After doing the damage he gets all sad and apologises and says he'll change. I don't knowwhat I should do...

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s_chirps

First thing you need to do is speak with him and tell him how you feel. There are boundaries in every relationship and one should respect that. I believe you deserve the respect as well. I hope this would help

@s_chirps it is but I've tried. He always just says that he'll change. That he'll try. And asks me to give him one more chance and ive done that so many times. He hardly takes the talks seriously.

Zoya Ahmad

Hey! Thanks for reaching out. I am sure this must be disturbing you a lot. Here you need to be clear and assertive in your mind as well as to him that it’s it. You don’t want to continue this, even if it becomes a big issue you still don’t want it. Stand up for yourself and be on that decision no matter what. Conpletely distance yourself from him if you fear that he will again manipulate you. You need to make up your mind first and know that you don’t deserve this.

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@Zoya Ahmad I know I should do what you're saying and I've tried. But he shows up at my house and I have no doubt in my mind that he doesn't mind making a scene. He uses that against me.

Well you shouldn’t worry and think about yourself in this situation. He can’t keep threatening g you always

That’s what I am saying that make up your mind first

help me please

how do I change for the better?

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