wants to move out of a relationship because of unhealthy restrictions, but afraid to do so because of the fear of being left alone

Depression

Relationship Issues

I have a male bestfreind. He has been with me since 3 years. I am too attached to him and he also loves me. My family dont like him so i talk to him secretly. But now we fight daily. He is so possessive and with hig h anger issues. He wants to control everything. He dont let me use social sites. When on the other side he have over thousand followers.He wants that i should not talk to people he dont like and he like no one to whomever i talk. He puts so much restriction on me. And have people to keep an eyes on me. He fights on issues like i should not share photos of me anywhere just send them to him. To put him over career.To put him over myself.i dont have anyother person except him in my life. But now it has become toxic and draining my mental peace. I have never hurt anyone so it has become too difficult to leave him. Whenever i try to stay away from him he threats me that he will jump off the building. He loves me butt now the pain and suffering has become the dialy routine. I am not happy with him but without him i will be moree depressed. What should i do?

jackamy

4 Answers

Sunshineme

Well I think you should talk to the guy and tell him that you don’t like this and if he still does the same then you know the answer. Love with respect and freedom should be there in every relationship.

Zoya Ahmad

Hey! Thanks for reaching out. This is not a healthy relationship to be in, you both should trust each other and be loyal towards each other, and give each other enough space. These kinds of restrictions make the relationship very suffocating. You cannot have a life like this. I think you guys should talk about this and be assertive that you don’t want this. Be assertive because you are going to express how you feel and if it makes him angry then tell him that we are here for a healthy discussion. Know his reaction and let me know. We can then further discuss what should be done.

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peskyDinosaur2

just act like u are not gng to talk to him for few days like 3 months and let him think himself and give him room so that he will think about any other things also so that he will get over u and u can get along slowly later

apurva12

Don't let anyone controlle you it's your life and your choice ,atm he'll not jump of the roof and if he does so dear it's not your faul these are threats only amd that's the reason your parents don't like him (parent's always think best fir there child ) and so you deserve better.... talk to him make everything clear

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