What do I do?

Question

If anyone else would've asked this to me I would've advised them to love themselves and focus on themselves. But here I am anyway, with a really stupid problem. I'm obsessed with the idea of falling in love and crave for affection so bad that I waste my days thinking if I'll ever get 'the one', and either get jealous when I see couples, or obsess over them. I don't know, but the kind of person I am, I don't think I'll ever find love, it seems too hard. And I'm young to think of all this, but I've had break downs due to this, so it does matter very much to me. It seems like I'll never get that affection I crave for. And this hurts.

somberapricots6 · Answer

how old are you, if you don't mind?

itsmeee · Answer

I feel stupid saying this, but I'm 16 and will turn 17 this year.

somberapricots6 · Answer

no you're not at all stupid to say that. At this age we all feel that. The good thing is you are not getting with anyone who's not compatible. You know your type, you're clear what you want. Therefore you'll find your person anytime, don't stress about it.

arjun0813 · Answer

You know what you are not alone..everyone craves for love...for affection and when one is not able to get what they desired in terms of love, they get frustrated and it's fine to feel all of that. But one thing you have to understand that the more we run desperately towards something, the more it moves away from us and that's true. You need to understand to enjoy your own company and not wasting any opportunity in meeting new people because you never know where you might click with someone. Till then try find your own company

itsmeee · Answer

I'm trying to not stress about it and enjoy my own company, but sometimes it just gets over my head and then I cry for now reason. I guess I'm scared.

somberapricots6 · Answer

I feel the same. Have you ever had a boyfriend?

itsmeee · Answer

@arjun maybe everyone does, but in my case, it's like too much. I keep obsessing over couples and imagine myself in their place, the support, the affection, I imagine everything I crave for, creating fake situations in mind and stuff. it has reached this level.

itsmeee · Answer

@somberapricots no, another problem is I'm scared of commitment too.

somberapricots6 · Answer

I was in the exact situation as you are currently. I tried talking to a guy romantically and it was going good until I met him in person. I liked talking the stuff that couples usually do in texts. It was not exclusive though. I had my first kiss with him. Turned out I'm not at all attracted to him and I regret wasting my first. It was the peer pressure ig and my hormone too. Now I know it might get a bit late but I'll find the loml when it's the right time. And clearly it's not the right time.

itsmeee · Answer

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?

somberapricots6 · Answer

I'm 18

itsmeee · Answer

Oh okay, I wish the best for you, you seem like a great person to be with and also have the knowledge about this being the wring time. I hope you overcome this feeling and get whatever you wish for.

itsmeee · Answer

wrong *

somberapricots6 · Answer

I wish the same for you :)

itsmeee · Answer

Thanks, I've had many people wish for me before because it gives me hope lol

arjun0813 · Answer

what I want you to understand @itsmee that you are young and after sometime you'll go to college..there you'll get alot of opportunities to meet and make relationships with different people...you just need to enjoy with your friends...I was also the same person as you are right now but desperation for anything is not good..just be calm and enjoy your company...post on social media..go out with friends...enjoy with parents

somberapricots6 · Answer

Have you watched the series 'The summer I turned pretty' ?

itsmeee · Answer

@somberapricots nope, but yeah go on if you want to tell me about it.

itsmeee · Answer

@arjun yeah I'm trying thanks

somberapricots6 · Answer

It's a suggestion, you can watch it. It's on prime.

itsmeee · Answer

Okay, I'll check it out, thanks.

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help me please