what if he finds somebody better? blames me for the wrong things he did.. yet says loves me..

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I was in a relation with somebody for 7 yrs.. but with lots of ups and downs.. always fights and arguements.. he was very posssesive and controlling.. yet would drink and smoke which i did not like but lied about things like those to me..and these alwyas created prblms between us and ended with fights and me blocking him or not talking to him for days together.. but once i cooled down...he would come talk and we would get back to normal.. this went on like forever..but in 2020 i found he was CHEATING on me.. and when confronted.. he said u never bothered about me.. always fought blocked me.. n all kinds of crap.. he only spoke abt the result that i blocked not the things that let to it.. but agaaiinn after sometime we reconciled and got engaged..but aftr the engagemnt i got to ir wasnt just one girl.. but many hookups over the yrs.i couldnt take it n called off the wedding..but now i am still not able to get over it.. it has been almst 1.5 yrs since we broke up.

NannoYuri · Answer

good things take time. make yourself a priority and then everything will be better 👍

vp05 · Answer

What if he does not even miss me after he finds somebody else.. i wasnt bad.. he potrayed me so.. will i ever get justice.. his family did not say a word against him!!

DeadTree · Answer

well yk no one supports a lot, i trusted a girl and she cheated me and got to me back, i trusted her and now she bumped me again, ppl are harsh don't worry about them i know ur heartbroken, Don't worry stay strong and ur best, her dad blame me for everything too so pic story is a lot alike, I'll just say there's only one thing u can do- move on, i know it's difficult but don't worry if u wanna talk about it and make things out, I'm free for u since no one i trusted was for me

vp05 · Answer

thank you so much that means alot! the betrayal just kills you inside out.. and adjsting with someelse all over again seems all the more tiresome

contentCur1 · Answer

good night

DeadTree · Answer

um yes that's true, btw u ok?? tbh I'm worried about you.. well don't worry, we can talk and share stuff nd ik ur feelings, u may feel alone nd dk whom to contact, tbh i wanna stay with ya, it's just bad that idk when u may cry otherwise I'm sure I'll be there to wipe ur tears :)

vp05 · Answer

that is so sweet of you!Tbh ive been better.. i don't know how to overcome it.. i wanted to give him another chance but he jst didnt have the guts to make things right..Now i am stuck..not able to move forward..not able to move bckwards..my family supported me through the process but now they are like it is alreasy 1.5 yrs get over it and get married.. and i am not able to commit or reciprocate with the same energy that i usd to

humorousMagpie7 · Answer

hey i feel so bad for what u went through it must be traumatic to find out all the bs he put u through , and u were the real love all along and he was a player thats why u need to take a stand and close out a toxic chapter . When 2 people r not on same level they go back n forth like cat and mouse but u need to end it for good . There is karma always that teaches people value of true love .  U will find someone who shows u what true love really feels like :) and he will face bad karma in love.

humorousMagpie7 · Answer

how u can move forward is forgive all people they were just a lesson and taught u to stand up for yourself and love yourself first ok so be happy . And god loves u bcoz he showed u the trut before it could go any further and your future is saved . Be single and build trust and good connections again before falling in love . U r deserving of a healthy true love 🤗

vp05 · Answer

thankyou so much for supporting.. and understanding what the trauma is.. i wish nobdy experiences it ever in their lives.. the depression and anxiety and overthinking seem to have no bounds..and nearly kills you.. it just gets difficult to even get out of bed and to do even the most basic of chores seem impossible.Such is my state.. i have soo many grudges..and i just can't seem to stop the conversations and debates in my head😑

DeadTree · Answer

Well tbh that's reality, don't be sad, he will pay back some day, god will make him do so but ya ik ur suffering, hey it's my request don't suffer alone, I'll be by ur side, add me on any social media, let's talk tomorrow, don't be upset nd alone, I'll support u always

vp05 · Answer

just drop your ig id here

DeadTree · Answer

@brigitta_13

vp05 · Answer

what is your name??

DeadTree · Answer

it's anshu

help me please

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Delayed grief and depression