so I'm polyamorous and I have two partners, Theo and Meredith. Meredith likes someone, Nik, but I hate Nik. they like each other and Meredith asked me if they could date. I wanna say no because I hate Nik and I have jealousy issues. but I can't say no because of jealousy, I'd be a hypocrite. would it be wrong for me to say no?