What to do?

Question

I can say that my gf is a straight forward person and mostly blame me for whatever I forget to do or misunderstood. sometime, it is acceptable for me but sometime it matter to my feeling. What should I do? and if I talk about this thing to her she will be more angry and think I am a person who doesn't accept fualt and unhappy with me.

Shivaang · Answer

Then improvise after accepting your mistake

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

you know it is just a small thing.

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

She asked me about receipt from shop and I said to her ' let me find it due to I can't tell her the exact location where I put it but it is inside my room.'

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

But most of the time when it is my forgetting or doing anything incorrect, she always blame me in a way that sometime make me feel boring about that.

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

and when it is her time of doing anything wrong or misunderstood on sth, I can't even tell her the truth about the thing in a straightful way, all I need is to speak to her in avery calm way and like explain her which nothing happened.

Shivaang · Answer

ok

Shivaang · Answer

ohh

Shivaang · Answer

You are scared of her

Shivaang · Answer

why is that?

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

I can say she is a person who can blame other people or complain about others but others can't do that to her especially her lover.

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

She is my direct manager also at work.

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

and other one reason is most of the time I don't want to make any troublem

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

she blame me but want me to stay silent without providing reason.

Shivaang · Answer

your direct manager

Shivaang · Answer

nicee

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

and if I provide her reason she mostly get unhappy with my reason even sometime I am reasonable and just a small feedback.

Shivaang · Answer

there is saying in coporate, don't date your colleagues

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

I can say she started to attract me first.

Shivaang · Answer

happens

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

She get close to me be nice and open minded to me but after time to time it show me that I can't say anything true or giving her feedback based on real situation.

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

All she need are nice words, admiration (but doesn't react to that much), convincing.

Shivaang · Answer

she is controlling type, if you want some improvement in your relationship, you need to confront her about this behaviours of her or just keep balancing and get control and happy in a way :)

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

I don't know what to do.

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

because if I confront her much this will lead to problems both in relationship and workplace.

Shivaang · Answer

well thats the risk you have to take to short the relationship issue

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

I just want her to know that sth if I am wrong or whatever please tell me in a way of improving or just skip it if it is not such a matter.

Shivaang · Answer

if she is really into you than she will atleast try to understand and do something about this

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

we are all humans, we have both downside and upside points.

Shivaang · Answer

Good luck with your relationship, this is all I can tell you.

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

I can say she love me but I can't be sure how hard it is due to she is a type of controlling gf and mostly on her own like this.

senvathanakthai167 · Answer

we went through many fights and until now if sth bad happens I can say I can accept it much easier that before.

Gaslighting

am I wrong?

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