It's okay to feel this way. But whatever you feel or think need not necessarily be true. There are some things in our control, some others are not. Sit down, and make a list of things, you think you are good at and the things you are not good at. Highlight the areas you can control and improve upon. whether others like you or not is not in your control, but you must like yourself first
Be true to yourself and accept yourself, forgive yourself.
You are a lovely person and definitely have some gifts given to you by God. it's just that you are looking at what you don't have instead of what you have
see no what i beleive is nobody's perfect but we are the gifts given by God it's ok to be the way u are the most important thing is that u need to love urself more than anyone..if u are avg in study it doesn't mean that u can't do anything..looks doesn't matter what matters is the heart u have it's not that they are staying forcefully with u it's their own choice to stay with you u never forced them .. right? no body is good enough for others u just need to trust urself that u are good enough for urself..just love urself the way ur no need to think negative about urself
what if someone constantly tells you about someone/something is perfect. i am trying.. i am trying to be ok.. to understand that everyone is not perfect.. but i am tired of hearing that someone out there is so perfect that i cannot reach there.. i know my heart.. it's pure. never thought anything bad about anyone.. but why this is happening with me then. why the other person cannot be happy with my imperfections. and if he is with me with why he is constantly telling about others perfections.
i feel guilty that he is afraid of loosing me and also he is sad that he can't be with a perfect person. he wants to enjoy the life with other's. but also does not want to loose me. but constantly telling me about how he is missing everything makes me guilty. and i am so so so selfish that i just can't leave this person.
see comparison is everywhere PPL will tell u that, that persn is perfect bt u known them from just outside everything one can be perfect from outside bt from inside they only know what is lacking in them u don't need to take it seriously cause it will only make u feel inferior trust me I've been through it i know it sucks bt sometimes we just need to ignore it even my parents say this things to me which hurts me to the heart bt i can't do anything to change their mind so i just trust myself and trying my best to be happy
i am not able to ignore this.. this self-doubt, self-criticism, feeling guilty everything is killing me from inside. i cry to sleep. these whole things are creeping inside me like anything. i feel dirty from inside. i feel lonely, depressed and sad.
if u feel like talking i am here to listen bt it's something u need to fight on ur own i can only help if u can try to deal with it
like you said, this self doubt and self criticism is only going to hurt you. It is not in any way going to be useful for you or for your relationship
so you need to stop somewhere.
yes @lonely is right like i told u... u need to fight it we can help u bt u need to take action against it on own
If your partner is comparing you to someone else to this extent then I don't think the relationship is healthy. And being selfish is not a bad thing. One must be selfish! No one else thinks about you, you yourself have to take care of yourself, love yourself accept yourself, completely and fully.
You have to be good enough in your own eyes, then you will be good enough in everyone else's. If you yourself think that I am not good enough no one can help you. So look at the things in a positive light. Don't forget your positive points.
i am someone who will try till my last breath.. that is why i am trying.. you know trying in every possible way.. and i know i can't leave and live.. so just waiting.. i don't know why exactly am i waiting.. but it sucks.