aesa kyu?

Idk, I often feel my self worth is very low and emotions are dominant and this is because of my childhood trauma and I don't know how to give myself the love idk how to love myself enough

hi! You can try doing things that you love the most.It will help you to feel less pissed off i guess

thank you lordshuk, yh I like writing but I also tend to depend on people for emotional support and too much of it has made me weak and I fear being alone

build the security within yourself instead of depending upon others emotionally. Take small steps .

how do I build the security

We are human and we actually are emotionally depended.See , love for parents or any other person you care for. I am actually excited since you told that you like writing.I wish I could read

as you told that you write, use that for expressing yourself instead of telling everything to another person. They might not be with you forever but your skills, your writing it'll continue

yeah thank you I haven't written in a long time, you know it's very hard for me to just respect myself for once, if someone I love disrespects me in a fight I would talk politely and try to fix it even tho they are rude it's because I have no self worth and it comes from the childhood trauma it's very hard for me to just be independent have self worth and respect how do I build that

you are with yourself at the end. not your parents,not yours friends, relatives, partner. Learn to value yourself. in this world it's just us

No, yeah it's self worth..This part is right.. People realise in time.You talk politely still people react in a rude way.Its only you are too great for them to understand. But I think if someone behaves that way, just stop arguing.... Something serious happened in your childhood? you mind Sharing!

yeah you are right, walking off from a fight is what is hard for me I feel they wont come back to me if I don't fix it then and there and I ha e fear of losing them but they usually do come back and say sorry

yes I will. share

my mum and dad got married really early my mum was 18 and dad 32 and they had a lot of problems a lot of fights I used to live with my dadi for 7 years and they used to come. visit because they both used to work and after 7 years they just took me to other city with them it was hard for me to live there as they used to fight all the time and at my dad is it was so peacefull and my mum used to physically abuse my dad and i that really messed me up and she had anger issues it's better now but I have no respect for my mother neither am I really close to her I never got a mothers love

it was a hell of a child hood

I just wanted to run away

and now by God's grave I am in a good place with a good partner but from time to time I feel I am very weak emotionally and feel scared to be alone and independent and that sometimes affects my relationship

If you don't walk off at right time.You ll only hurt yourself more buddy..And they will think you are only taken from granted...You are currently staying with your parents? or you stay in another city?

I'm in a different country

You r not weak , you love your partner so much that he doesn't realise I guess.Fear of being alone is quite problematic you know!

Another country! You r happy?

yh I am happy by Gods grace I'm doing medicine, I just don't know how to get over the childhood trauma because it keep coming back to me

Talk about your traumas as much as you can. These will affect your relationships. You're stronger than you know!!