no he's a gud friend of mine nd always helps me when in down
want2liv
i don't knw what's going on. I'm facing alot of mood swings. sometimes I feel extremely happy nd sometimes very bad
want2liv
yeah
want2liv
srry i want to anonymous
want2liv
*b
crushedchowder0
same just bad day managed somehow feeling irritated about every little thing
want2liv
@crushedchowder i knw it just feels exhausting
want2liv
thnks for ur cncrn bt srry i don't want to talk anywhere else
want2liv
yeah
crushedchowder0
@want2liv yes it does from waking up to doing normal day to day activities to study everything even my parents face is becoming annoying just irritated massive mood swings
want2liv
the continuous cycle of gud nd bad,my mood swings, people not understanding nd misjudging nd now I even fear from telling what i feel like i don't want to talk to anyone anymore
want2liv
@crushedchowder I'm going through same thing. i don't want to talk to anyone or just want to runaway, feels everytime like quitting my business, have doubts regarding my career nd I'm facing alot of mood swings
want2liv
i have tried bt no one understands or they take in a wrong way nd now I just feel like it's better to stay silent
want2liv
i don't know what to do so I can feel bttr. when things r gud i feel like I'm getting bttr bt again things get worse n i feel exhausted. it's all alot of tiring
want2liv
it's a relief if u have someone to listen to
crushedchowder0
1
I can totally understand you, even if I try to talk to my mom i feel like she's more concerned about my brother than me.
want2liv
it's more saddening if u see people caring others the way u want not doing same for u. i have experienced same from my family
crushedchowder0
i also don't share but still it's my mom i sometimes want her to care abt me too can't she just for once talk to just abt me without bringing everyone else's problem
want2liv
family issues r the most common cause of bad mental health nd due to generation gap, we experience this the most
crushedchowder0
1
agreed
want2liv
i want same. i want my family to consider my choices nd problems too. i too wanted care nd attention nd efforts bt never get that. it's too much of frustrating that why they can understand others bt not me
want2liv
no
want2liv
i sometimes want to just disappear so that they can feel my absence
crushedchowder0
i wish atleast my father was good but talking to him is like getting shamed and criticized for even existing
crushedchowder0
I really feel like iam the only girl in India who's not papa ki pari
want2liv
I'm never abit of close to my father so I don't know even how to share a single thing
want2liv
@crushedchowder I'm also not
want2liv
i have two elder siblings bt have a huge age gap
want2liv
yeah nd they always misjudge me so I don't like sharing anything
crushedchowder0
my sibling equation is also not good
want2liv
i only have a best friend bt at this tym she's having a very difficult tym due to her relationship so I just don't feel like telling her as she already in alot of tnsn
crushedchowder0
yup I'm idk why I'm even venting it's everyday thing I'm so tired of this
want2liv
it's like we want someone to listen, we don't want to give up bt it's getting difficult bcoz of such situations
crushedchowder0
yes listen to us without giving opinion and judgement ik ihv enough potential to come out of this zone but i just want someone to listen but the fear of judgement or getting shamed for feeling so is what keeps stopping me
want2liv
yeah I'm here
want2liv
abit of
want2liv
i like people to stay by side as it's getting harder to explain or takes time for me to let my feelings out
want2liv
i have
want2liv
it's not like he's not supportive bt he's struggling financially alot these days nd that's why don't have much tym to talk
want2liv
yeah
want2liv
wbu? why r u stressing?
want2liv
yeah I'm trying my best to hold on
want2liv
ohhh. it must b burdensome?
want2liv
nd why so?
want2liv
sure. feel free to share will definitely give u best advice
want2liv
does she feels the same for u?
want2liv
there can b a reason reagarding her marriage or may b her feeling r chngd now
want2liv
it's the memories that hurts the most.
want2liv
did u try asking her that y she has chngd?
want2liv
it's nothing like having a fault, if her feelings chng it has nthng to do with u
want2liv
what did she said?
want2liv
definitely she was just for tympass with u
want2liv
yes it's bttr to get over her as she just don't have any intention of staying or making things work
want2liv
1
that's a lot difficult bt have patience nd courage, u will definitely cope up from this
want2liv
gud luck u will surely get over her. don't think too much about past just focus on urself nd ur future.
want2liv
yeah just going to
want2liv
my pleasure. thnks for ur help nd support. gud night. same here
dopeysnipe8
yes
Abraham
1
hey i didn't see this
Abraham
1
are you okay?
want2liv
1
hlw. no issues
want2liv
1
yes I'm fine, just doing some studies
want2liv
1
wbu?
Abraham
am good ๐
Abraham
okay study well
want2liv
yeah will talk to u after 12
Abraham
๐ค
Abraham
all d best for ur exam
want2liv
1
๐คthnksโบ๏ธ
Abraham
hey der?
want2liv
yeah
Abraham
1
hw ws d exam
want2liv
great
Abraham
1
good
want2liv
wbu?
Abraham
All my exams over 4 years ago
want2liv
I'm not talking abt exams๐
want2liv
how r feeling nd how was day?
Abraham
1
๐๐ tdy ws a good one ๐ค๐ค
Abraham
1
The course you intend to study has many possibilities and if you have a lot of interest in it then you can definitely succeed in it. In multinational companies, even if the job is the same, the salary is different for those without PG and those with PG
Abraham
1
Only those who work in big companies understand the value of PG
want2liv
great to hear that u had a great dayโบ๏ธ
want2liv
yeah i know that it definitely has some pros bt i don't know how to make my family think about it
Abraham
1
Let's think about it by the end of the current course, I don't think there's any point in arguing with parents about it now, when the time comes tell them and then they won't be able to argue anyway.
want2liv
it's about end now. I'm already having exams now nd what now
Abraham
final yr?
Abraham
If your family members are strongly opposed to this, there are ways to get them to agree.
want2liv
yes I'm in final year
want2liv
what to do?
Abraham
The first one is to discuss this seriously with your parents when they are alone at home
Abraham
Make sure your siblings are not at home at that time
want2liv
ohk i will do so
Abraham
Is your father educated?
want2liv
yes
Abraham
1
Then surely your father can understand you
Abraham
1
Even if you are not close to him, you should talk to him openly about this matter
want2liv
he also wants wants the same that i don't persue it.
want2liv
I'm not a bit close to him
Abraham
You should tell him to give you a chance to do pg like your siblings
Abraham
Then talk to him about your mental difficulties
want2liv
literally I'm very disappointed with my family about that thinking regarding my studies
Abraham
Talk to your mother about the same thing and cry if its needed
want2liv
i don't know how to talk about what feeling nd going through. i feel afraid if they don't understand or misjudge
Abraham
First discuss this openly with both of them, tell them very clearly all the mental problems you are going through, and if they still can't understand you then let's try the next way.
want2liv
what's the next way๐
Abraham
1
Just see it as a method don't worry about how they will take it
want2liv
I'm worried nd having fears alot coz i have listened alot about them regarding me so now I don't feel like talking to anyone about that again as I'm hurt alot๐
Abraham
First let's see the result of this and then discuss about the next
Abraham
There is no need for you to get tensed for this, calm your mind first. Teach your mind that this is not a big deal, it can definitely be done then why should i worry about
want2liv
I'm having anxiety about even talking to anyone
want2liv
i don't want to talk as I know it will hurt me even more if they don't understand.
Abraham
Does it make sense to be sad about something without trying and thinking that this won't work?
want2liv
no๐
Abraham
Why are you so afraid,you tell them about your need, if they can't understand it, then let's look for another way, there is no need for you to worry, the need is ours, we will find many ways for it and try hard.
want2liv
i don't know even how to talk to about how I feel nd what i need
Abraham
Need is ours so it is necessary to keep our mind very strong.
want2liv
๐
Abraham
If its difficultfor you to talk them openly, write down on a piece of paper what you want to tell them
want2liv
I'll try that
Abraham
And then at the end of that letter you should add this, I think you will understand me. The reason I'm writing this letter is because I'm afraid to open up to you, I'm afraid you'll misjudge me when I open up. Thinking about this my mind has been very disturbed for a long time, if it continues like this I might get some depression, so I hope you will take this matter very seriously, I need your support, really i need your support very much because my mind is so broken right now
want2liv
ohk do that so
want2liv
*I'll
Abraham
Your letter should be as emotional as your parents should cry if they read it. They should feel that you need their support
Abraham
Don't make the letter too long
want2liv
u r making me feel like I'm in a movie๐
Abraham
Acting is sometimes necessary in life
want2liv
bt i don't like acting at all๐
Abraham
1
This is not acting, these are the things you have to say, these are the problems that harboring you for a long time.
want2liv
yeah i think so bt not gud at it. i think that it's better to keep things to myself if others don't understand it
Abraham
If you don't tell anyone and keep it in your mind, you will never find peace
Abraham
How can you say that they can't understand us without opening up to someone, sometimes even a fool can understand us if we open things up properly.
Abraham
Why are you so serious in life?
want2liv
i have already done so nd i got to listen the things which I'll never do in dreams. it's like they blame me for doing the things that i don't ever do
want2liv
i don't know ๐
Abraham
You jus do what I said and then we can think about the rest (its ur wish)
want2liv
ohk I'll try so
Abraham
We cannot achieve anything in life very easily.
want2liv
i have to try for that, ryt?
Abraham
1
Don't think emotionally and try to do things with practical intelligence
Abraham
1
If you like economics then practical thinking is an essential factor if you want to succeed in that field.
want2liv
i don't why I'm this much of emotional nd sometimes hate being like this
Abraham
We can never handle financial matters emotionally. We can make progress in that area only by thinking practically
Abraham
If Manmohan Singh approach the economic recession in India with emotionally, our country would never have reached the progress we see today.
want2liv
May b I'm ๐ worthless
Abraham
1
We become what we think of ourselves
want2liv
i don't used to talk more nd now when things r getting worse everyday, people not understanding me, misjudging me making me more introvert nd not feel like talking to anyone about my problems.
want2liv
thnks for thinking so much about my problems bt srry as honestly I don't think like i can do this๐
Abraham
Is it useful to keep saying like this? it's required to take efforts from your side to solve your problems
Abraham
Problems will never be solved if we draw a circle and insist that we stay inside and never come outside it.
want2liv
Abraham, I'm tired of listening ill about myself, i know I'm not that much gud, i had done wrong things bt now I'm trying my best to b gud one nd nobody believes me they say bad nd think bad about me. I'm tired nd broken my listening those things from my family, it's still very difficult to hold on bt I'm nd i fear if I go through something else I will not able to handle or hold on.
want2liv
May i should just let this go too like I've let the other dreams go.
Abraham
I'm not making things more complicated for you
Abraham
Only you know better than me what the circumstances of your home.
want2liv
i know u r just trying to help me
want2liv
thnks for understanding
Abraham
1
But it is essential that you reduce emotional thinking, whether in this matter or in any other matter
want2liv
yeah I'll try that too
Abraham
Do you have your own income?
want2liv
yes bt alittle
Abraham
study abt stock market if you're intrstd
Abraham
its risky (without knowledge )
want2liv
nd i don't have that much of knowledge abt it
Abraham
1
u don't worry we will find another way
want2liv
ohk
Abraham
๐ค
Abraham
We can find many ways and in the end we can achieve our goal through any one of the ways
want2liv
๐ค
want2liv
yeah i believe uโบ๏ธ
Abraham
i believe you're worth
want2liv
thnks for having belief in me
Abraham
pls trust urslf
want2liv
I'll do my best for that too
Abraham
pls keep ur promise
want2liv
yeah I'll not b sad nd will try my best to b happy.
want2liv
it's harmful for one itself for being emotional these days