childhood sexual abuse and its effect on current relationship

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childhood sexual abuse and its effect on current relationship

Hey so i was molested too many times by someone very close in my family and it has affected me alot, so I've recently came into a relationship and we haven't had sex yet and also I'm a virgin, so I'm like i always push him away when we are going a little more close to something I mean I just I am so scared of physical connection, he is very supportive and understands me but he also expects something he never asks anything from me and he never forces me but I really want to get out of this trauma and I mean be normal, I want to do stuff but as soon as we are upto something I just bounce back, and I know he won't say it but he might also feel a little I don't know bad. I don't understand how to deal with such situations, I just want to be free from all this.

ferventPaella1

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Sunshineme
This is going to be part oof your life and you cant change tthe past. Your trauma is affecting you. You could share with your bf or if you are noot comfortable then take more time. Dont force yourself to doo somethg that can damage you further
ferventPaella1
yeah I have talked to him but i am just too confused rightnow
Sunshineme
Take yourtime, dnt hurry
Zoya Ahmad
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Hey! Thanks for reaching out. Talking about childhood trauma is a very courageous thing to do, i am glad you shared it atleast you now know the reason of your behaviour. This is very natural to be scared of intimacy in a relationship because of past experience. Try to talk to your partner that you love him but you’re scared of intimacy, you would need more time. Try to trust him, feel comfortable around him. Don’t push yourself to do something out of guilt. Also try to rationalise the situation that whatever happened in your childhood is now over, you now know the difference between a good touch and a bad touch, you are much more aware and can stand for your right. You will never let anything like that happen to you again. Don’t generalise.
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ferventPaella1
Yeah I will talk to him about it but I do feel guilty, because it's happen way too many times, I feel like I am disappointing the other person, and then I don't feel good.
Zoya Ahmad
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You’re not disappointing anybody. You’re taking your own time.
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ferventPaella1
you are right, Thank you so much.

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fucked up financially covered and stuck in loop of debt

adoringhawk7

mujhy lgta h me mar jaugi bina successful huy apny maa baap k liye kuch nhi kr paugi Or na apny liye

shamu

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why are they not conducting sessions now

i am findiding difficult to move on

family problem ki bjh se bhut jyada negative thoughts aa rhy h .. suicides k thoughts jyada aa rhy h