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childhood trauma, recent break up and flashback of past

I am a 19-year-old student. I have been having anxiety issues since the COVID lockdown. I was a very active kid. My parents enrolled me to a karate dojo. For the first few years, it was ok, then the instructor started physically abusing me and touching me inappropriately. I guess I didn't understand it at first because I was around 12 13 years old. But around the time I turned 15, I understood that it was not right. It took me a lot of courage to tell my parents. They asked me to not go over there again, and the topic was closed. No one ever talked to me about it. I started self-harming, and it was a very dark phase. I met my ex-boyfriend during all of this, he supported me through it. All was going well, but we broke up due to family issues this January. Since then, everything that is happening keeps me up at night, sometimes I get sweaty, I have pain in my chest. Two days back, at a family function someone asked me why I left Karate. It all came back, I have been hyperventilating and haven't slept since. I have sem end exams from tomorrow. I don't know what to do.

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Sunshineme

You have gone through that has left a mark in your life but the best thing is not to give power to these low lives. Distract yourself and concentrate on self-growth

I am a psychology student... Past few years I had got to a better place with my ex's help and support... But now everything is crashing

I mean I know the power of self love... And achieving self growth I also know that I haven't really moved on from him, and I have to But in situations like the present one, all of the "I know I should this" goes out of the window

Zoya Ahmad

Hey! Thanks for reaching out. I am sure this must be really difficult to deal with. You have been theough a lot. It’s really courageous of you to share about your childhood. What has been happening around you after your break up? Heart breaks are difficult to handle. The feeling won’t fade in a moment it will take time. Acknowledge the feeling, feel it and accept it. Then try to move ahead. Try to focus on yourself. Have a priority list made. Whenever you feel anxious try to focus on the present and what your priority is.

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Childhood traumas do hit us in the most unexpected ways. But what you can do now is know that you stood up for yourself. And you’re out of that situation now.

My family doesn't approve of him, and the issues increased. One day, last year around the same time, my mom said "It's me or him". I had no option but to end things with him. He didn't take it so well. He got angry, kept messaging me. During this time, a senior in my college started liking me, he said it out loud. One day, my ex asked me "Are you getting close to him" He thought I was defending my senior. I got angry, and I said yes maybe. From that moment on, he has stopped talking to me, said "I have no interest in a girl like you" While I feel I took the decision for my mother, I don't really want to to loose my ex. But he doesn't want to even see my face or talk to me.

Try to clear things out once. Explain to him your points. Do not expect a reply from him but atleast this will give a sense of satisfaction that you have explained your part. Now the other person has the right to decide for their life. It’s okay give him some time. Let his anger subside.

Okay.. will do that

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