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my bf refused to marry me and left the country. my parents found a guy for me, i met this guy a few times and after a few drinks we had sex. now that my bf got to know that i am meeting a guy, he got fear of losing me, and he is asking me out for marriage. I really love him and want to go back to him. but i feel impure to go, because I slept with someone. shall I go back and tell him? will he accept me? he will break like anything, he trusted me very much. or shall I just go ahead and marry this new guy. our marriage is not fixed yet.

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

You should marry the guy whom you love. First of all nothing makes you impure. You can always go back to your ex but remember that he was the one who refused to marry you and left the country. Now that you decided to move on, he wants you back. This doesn't make sense. Also you need to analyse your future with the new guy. Whom do you see a future with? Who can be consistent with you? The choice is yours

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

I told my bf that this guy just hold my hand, on that my bf is so upset all night, that how can someone touch you. why you let him touch hand.

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

I am feeling very guilty.

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

What right does he have to question you? Listen, don't get all emotional here. The guy refused to marry you and left the country. You were ready to move on and settle down and now he is questioning why he held your hand? Is he making sense to you? He has no right to question you or ask you not to marry the other guy. Choice is totally yours. But wait, you having sex with someone else is only justified if had broken up with your bf. If you two were still in a relationship then your bf's feelings are warranted

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

see.. he asked me to move on and get married. but he also asked me to keep talking with him otherwise he will get disturbed in studies. so i did both. I dont know what is this relation called.

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

You have to decide what the relationship is called. Did you tell him before meeting the guy? Or did you only confess after feeling guilty? Whether or not you both had broken up or were still in a relationship at that point is a deciding factor. Either way it might be better to be honest with him. If you are considering marriage with your bf, then it is better to restart with no lies whatsoever. Yes it will hurt him, but the fact that you hid the truth will hurt him even more

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

I always told him before or just after meeting this guy. so he is always aware of whats happening.

Heretofeelbetter · Answer

he was like pleading me pls tell if anything more happened between you, pls dont lie to me. but I didnt tell him because he had exam next day, thats today.

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

Ok, you can tell him at the right time

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