depressed because of divorce and family issues

Stress

Depression

I am iha..... I am going through a lot of problems at the same time depression out of it. I had a divorce last year....I was ok with it at that time even i had a lot of pressure from my parents side. I had my best friend with me to console and gave me good company. After that i fell in love with him and it was a beautiful feeling to get best friend as my love. We had best time together and best relationship too. Nothing mattered us. But now after being lockdown and all....my parents started searching for a boy. Whoever comes I used to reject them. Right now i cant tell them about the relationship as we didnt get any job and he is 21 yet....and I am 22. I had a lot of struggles to get back to normal day by day. My parents doesnt want me to stay here anymore ...due to their tension they speaks that way ..i can understand. But i cant cope up with it. I dont want anyone else other than him in my life. When i talked to him....as he couldnt do anything now ...with his job as the situation is like this....he told me how could you handle the situation there for long time....You better marry the guy your parents saying. Along with parents pressure his withdrawal is also haunting me badly. I dont know anything.....I even feel like giving peace to everyone at the same time by giving up on my dreams and goals and life toooo. Parents see me as a enemy now...waking up in the morning i feel why the hell did God gave me another day. Along with that He dont talk to me now....He keeps distance too. My mind is fully distracted and disturbed😐😐

Koswasky

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Hi Iha. I also got divorced last year. I completely understand the place you are coming from. Separation is never easy. There's a lot happening in your life and I request you to focus on every aspect one by one. 1. Don't take the things your parents say on your heart. They do love you regardless of anything but definitely they want to see you happily married and settled. And your concern is right because of the fact that you and the person you love are too young to have a marriage as a responsibility. I think you should now marry the person you love. Don't compromise on your happiness again. Don't rush. If you're unable to speak to them now it's totally fine. Give it time but also tell your parents not to show you anymore boys. Because of the simple reason that you need time to heal from your previous relationship. Regardless of the fact that you love someone today or not. But postpone the plan of marriage for yourself. Do other things to make your parents happy. Please feel free to share more concerns :)

Yea i know i need time ..... And to get married to the same person whome i need the most .... But i tried my level best to convince my parents....but i couldn't do ..... Right now if i face the same situation i may get mad. I asked my dad to give me a chance to do my PG programmes and everything but he just need me to get married. I dont know where it is going to take me now...🙁

When they talk about marriage i get short tempered now a days....due to the frustration and all. So i had a quarrel last time....now i feel and understand that what i did was extremely not right. Can i get some advices to make this home back as i was before..... and bring back the happiness in me somehow. Here none talks to me freely now....everyone looks at me as if i am a stranger..... And even i feel no sense staying here it seems. That is only because i can see only fake happiness around😊. I need to be real..... I need them to smile ... I need a happy life with my family as well as with him too.

I already shared my goals with my parents but they are not ready to accept... About my partner hee too have kept distance with me now. :( And now i feel disturbed every second and distractions from every job i do.

Thanq so much maaam

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