Before loving anyone .. try to love yourself.. u are not a burden .. u are precious .. u will never be a burden for the one made for u .. this is not the right time ..let better days come ..till that time try to love yourself ..u give all ur love to others and how much do u give urself?? Have some self respect.. when u start loving urself u will never feel this way.. trust me . Try to involve urself in the things that make u productive.. Don't chase anyone.. right ones will chase u ..

Thank you. I will try that and put myself first instead of putting other peoples feelings above mine

Yes , u can't do it at once but trust me u can do it gradually.. make it a habit .. start ur day with a beautiful smile and think about all the things and persons that u have ..don't think about people that u can't have .. try to value the people that are always present there for u instead of getting upset about those u don't value u .. focus on ur hobbies and improve day by day.. love urself and ull find people loving u back .. 🌺🥰

how do i differentiate self love and selfishness because im so used to taking care of other people that when i take care of myself for once i immediately feel bad and guilty

DEAR sunflowerpie...u r such a pure soul to think of vanity as self love ...yes I know how u feel...that being self loving is selfish but u need to understand few thing...u can't always be there for everyone and u can't please them all even if u r an angel...so what to do..u feel bad here right? Step one... understand that you should never give others so much power, u will learn this the hard way. Step Two know ur peioritues is u and people u love ..family .. Step Three ...u need to enjoy ur company...it's hard for people like us...but we need to get out and do so...do things we like...cook in isolation or water the plants...empaths have tendency to give give and give and get crushed with others exhaustion...me...having experienced this ..I have to tell u my child ..it's not selfish...u r so intelligent u can differentiate na...when it's harming others or not

we won't tell u to stop being kind or caring...do that...but not everyday everytime at cost of ur own self ...my love that way u will be completely exhausted with nothing more to give and u sink...there is a statement someone told me...Life is If You Are...Be you ....and then be there for others ...just prioritize urself first...otehrwise who will help them....it's not selfish to survive...we will win this fight

Thank you so so much. This is really good advice.