please provide details... is this about someone you were in love with?
abjectdoughnut9
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yes
obsessedpaella2
Yes is about someone am in love with
johndoe1998
1
in my case, it was never going to work out even if we wanted to... there was religion, culture, language and lots of barriers. the first week after your breakup or whatnot will be the toughest. make your mind beleive that it was never going to work out and there's plenty of other fish in the sea. distance yourself from thoughts about her, stop chatting with her, mute her on insta and so on. she shouldn't come up in your phone ever. all this being said it'll be hard to forget her and those memories will always be there with you. once you meet someone better (which you definitely will) you'll realise how temporary life is. Also keep yourself occupied, try to work out(strong mind in a strong body), do stuff all the time so that you won't get time to think about her. hope life gets better :)
obsessedpaella2
I can't cut him off we are like besties when we meet he was dating but he fell for me anyway and without wanting to i fell for him and now things are complicated and am really hurting
obsessedpaella2
And i want to see him only as a friend i want him to stay in my life so what should i do?
johndoe1998
tell him how you feel then... if it works out all the better. and if it doesn't, you can cut him off. because if you stay watching him be with someone else, it's only going to destroy you from the inside. I've been in a similar situation myself. or if you think waiting will increase your chances with him, do wait but you'll be feeling sad everyday watching him care about someone else. however the wait and emotions will be worth it.
johndoe1998
that is kind of tough, if you were once attracted to him then seeing him as a friend will be really tough. but if you think you can, you've got to make your mind believe that. Also try meeting other people too which'll help you lose your interest in him while being friends itself
obsessedpaella2
He knowns and he said he feel the same way but he can't leave her because she has done nothing wrong to him, i wish i could stop loving him and see him only as a good friend
obsessedpaella2
I have tried meeting others but the love i feel for him is too strong that every guy annoys me so am so confused
johndoe1998
now this is kind of evil but if you think they might break up in the future somehow, you just have to wait. if you still want to see him as a friend, you need to make your mind believe that... noone else can do it for you. watching them be together however will be killing you from the inside as I've faced the same thing. Time will heal everything and you'll find someone appropriate for you but you have to keep trying. In my opinion, it's better to lose a friend than be in love with someone knowing there isn't a chance. try to distance yourself and move on(which is what I did) if you're sure it won't work out. you'll get way better friends in the future.