Life has to go on! You made a mistake and the good thing is you realised it and asked for forgiveness, your friend cares about you so he/she let it go. You have a good friend and this mistake of yours doesnt make you a bad person. So cherish your friendship and dont repeat it again and learn from it.
What can i do instantly so that my guilt is over?
This is a anonymous community and for me to tell you how to overcome your guilt, please tell me what’ve you done that makes you so guilty about it
I have said my friend ke "tu bs kya mere se kaam padne par baat karta h" or in simple words matlabi
And i come to know that i am wrong and he takes care of me, and i said sorry and he also accept it
And we are again on a good track but it stills feel that why i questioned him unnecessarily and will he have same as before or change his mindset about me
In friendship these things happen, its ok. If you guys dont fight then its just a formal friendship. Just appreciiate your friendship and enjoooy it. No need to feel guilty
My simple problem is that that i dont want to hurt someone directly or indirectly either he is my friend or not, but sometime i cant control my tongue and then i regret
H2022@ it sounds like you owned up to your mistake and apologised.
But the fact that you are still carrying the guilt means that there is more to this.
It's human to make mistakes, to misjudge and say things that hurt the other person. To realize and make an honest apology is a healthy route. Expecting that you will never say anything like that ever is an unrealistic expectation.
It may help to considerr why you are so hard on yourself. Do you have a tendency to treat yourself very harshly when you make a mistake?
Yes, i do treat myself harsh after commiting mistake, and i want that somebody should give me punishment for this
And honestly i feel scared that the person whom i hurt will talk to me or not or what he will think of our friendship simply i overthink so much
Such negative talk can really hold us back. It's human to make mistakes. What matters is that if we re taking the time and making the effort to learn from it and avoid such a mistake in the future.
Try to be a little easy on yourself. Exercise self compassion when such things happen. Think of it like this, if a dear friend made such a mistake and told you about it, how would you talk to them? Would you talk to them the same way you talk to yourself? Or would you try to be more understanding and supportive? We rarely treat ourselves the way we treat others. Try to be a friend to yourself.
Try to break the cycle of negative self talk, when you start to notice it, immediately put a stop to it and replace it with compassion and empathy.
Thankyou for your help
Now i am in a better space