Hi Anshi., I am listening we can sort this out . Can you tell your age as well as your partner age?

I am 29 and he is 49

It's been 11 years and all of a sudden he stopped talking to me

Hi Anshi. Im very sorry to hear this. It seems like you have invested a great deal of time and energy into someone who isn't willing to reciprocate. Could you shed more light on your anxiety? When did that begin?

I am addicted to talk to him, I love him more than anything. It's been 8 days we haven't talked. I can't spend my day without hearing his voice. I feel so lonely sometimes feel I like I can't survive but when I remember my parents I drop the thought of suicide, I can't do this for my parents but without my love I am all broken. My whole body starts shivering at least 2-3 times a day. And I feel like where I can get him back, how to get him back with me, I start crying so loudly and I can't seat on bed, then my anxiety increases, I feel like every thing is circulating, bad thought comes that someone used me, I see his photos, talk to his photos, ask him why you ditch me. I just feel I want to hug him and also slap him for what he is doing. I am trying to reach him but all the gates are closed like he will never come back. I am dying to see him. I am taking beta anxit 20, 3 times a day. I don't sleep all day, even nights are so scary, I sleep around 2 and wake up around 7 and that sleep is not deep sleep, I wake up so many times. I check my phone every minute, I feel like my phone is ringing but actually it is not ringing. Sometimes I ride bike so long to find place where I can deal with this

Whenever he was coming to my place to meet me, I do so many things to make him happy, I buy gifts and flowers for him, make special and his favourite dishes, I just take care of everything and treat him like he is my king. I do make up and put on bindi bcz he likes bindi. So many times I was not having money, bcz I am from middle class. There was a time when I had only 1500 rs, I bought shirt of 1000rs and spend 500 to buy things to make chicken for him and I had left no money. I was calling him all the time, he never did recharge also, only I did. Now I am dying to hear his voice and see him but his PHN is off, his friend says he hasn't mat him since so long. I don't know what to do.

I did everything for him, I sacrificed my dreams for him, he was never giving me gifts, when I asked after 6 years that he should give me gifts then he gave me sometimes. I just want my love back. Days and nights are so long now, I feel so alone. I don't like to talk to anyone. I can't watch movies , can't hear motivation videos or nothing. I don't know what to do plz help

When he stopped talking to me I got depressed bcz of fear that I will lose him, where, when ,how I will get him. How much long this PHN will be off, when he will talk, when he will love me back, it's just that I have never passed a single day without talking to him and all those time I miss him and shivering starts. I cry, feel like want to break something like glass ,cup of whatever.

Somebody help plz

Anshi, one more question. Since when have you been on these pills? Did you start taking them only recently due to this issue? Or were you taking them since before? On what basis were you prescribed these pills?

Last year we fought and he didn't talk to me just for one day and my BP was low and I was feeling chest pain so I went to hospital, did ECG. Dr said that ECG is fine but due to stress you are feeling anxity so he gave me that pill but after that everything was normal I was not taking pill, but since he is not taking to me from that day I am taking pills

9 days

I am really sorry to hear that. You must feel alone but you are also brave for sharing your story online. I know its a long time. I hope by each day your anxiety and sleep gets better, you find new hobbies, talk to your family, talk to new people, maybe get a dog, look at this as a new beginning. I hope you find happiness. https://youtu.be/Vx7YkKpt-J4

Thank you Deepak Sir

Anshi, if fall outs in your relationships are causing such severe anxiety for you, it may help to explore why you are so dependent on this relationship. Here are a few suggestions: 1. Try to find alternatives for your medicines like meditation, and grounding. Both may help. 2. If you both are still not talking, consider surrounding yourself with loved ones like good friends and relatives. 3. Take this time to think about your future what kind of life do you want for yourself? Try to be as specific as possible. Then ask yourself where does this person figure in to that vision? 4. Try to define the values that drive you, in regards to children, career, home, family, etc. Does this person share those same values? 5. Invest in yourself. Try to focus on your goals and friendships. Involve yourself in building skills and taking up hobbies that interest you. The clearer you are about what you want from life and make efforts to make it possible for yourself, the more easy it will become for you to navigate through this. Make efforts to bulid self compassion and self love. With that said, I would highly, highly urge you to seek therapy. Your dependence on this person and what it does to your health are tell tale signs of unresolved issues. Therapy can really help untangling them. I hope this helps.

Yah I m getting this. He called me before 2 days. Now he is taking to me but now I feel something is missing, I am still feeling those emptiness and fear of losing him, now I want to become independent. Right now I am depending on him, I know I can't stop loving him bcz I have given everything to him, my love, my soul everything but I want to be independent. I will try for it. I am not taking those pills now but sometimes I need those pills.

It's not just about love now, I am understanding that he is not that into me, he is with me for some feelings but not for love, he is not loving me otherwise he would have married me. It's just somekind of time pass for him. Now I can see he has not done anything for me, to make me happy. He just calls me and meets me whenever he wants but that is not love.

Now it's just I can't stop loving him, I want to learn to live without him. Help me for that, I wanna move forward. I know he won't divorce his wife and I can't be another woman in his life. How should I learn ?

As hansa mam said, figure out yiur goals in life and put your time and energy to work on those goals. As you do this you will start to think less and less about him and become independent and successful. My best wishes. 👍

Thank you, I will do that. I will try to focus on other things

I can understand Anshi maray sath b almost same howa after 7 years mara bf jis k sath mara pure realtionshp tha he left me aik dam and hum soty b raat ko call on kr k thay .. ap yaqeen kary jab kisi ki adat ho jaye boht boht buri hoti hai ... but time heals every thing... dukh khtm nahi hota bs kam ho jata hai ... ap khud ko boht busy krlo or bs time guzaro ... inshAllah bather ho ga Ameen