Low self esteem and body image issue

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Hello I'm in my mid twenties, a successful engineer, but my lean body structure makes me look like a school kid, due to which I'm mostly disrespected and shouted at in public places. A few days back 2 elderly ladies violently pushed me as I got in their way. A man was beating up a puppy and when I politely asked him not to do so, he disrespected me in public. Many relatives and cousins also body shame me and ask me to eat properly. Hearing all this on a regular basis and being disrespected regardless of my educational background is lowering my morale and self esteem. I have no one to defend me, as my parents suggest me not to raise my voice. How do I overcome this? I feel everybody deserves to be respected despite of their age or bodily structure/weight. Why do I have to state my age and qualifications to demand respect?

excitedTomatoe7

8 Answers
Zoya Ahmad
4
Hey! Thanks for reaching out. I am sure this must be really affecting you. Nobody has the right to do so. Start being assertive and don’t let anyone disrespect you. Create a boundary for yourself. Are you happy with yourself?
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excitedTomatoe7
Thank you, Zoya Yes, I'm happy with myself and I always take a stand for myself and demand respect. But the constant nagging, disrespect, and body shaming does affect my mood
excitedTomatoe7
People assume only the fat ones to be body shamed, but they're so wrong. Even the skinny ones are body shamed to an extreme that can be a major cause of insecurity
honeybear
4
You are beautiful inside out as long as you are happy with yourself and within don't care what anybody has to say . Yes peoples word can affect us bad but as long as we love ourself and who and what we are no one and nothing can take it away
Zoya Ahmad
4
I couldn’t agree less with you. People are anyway picking up cues to make someone feel devastated. We as individuals shouldn’t let anyone else overpower our emotions.
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excitedTomatoe7
If only everybody displayed compassion towards fellow human beings. Thanks for hearing me out :)
wakefulPlover3
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Hi, thanks for reaching out.. I just want to share my experience I have had a healthy personality from my childhood. I was always body shamed by everyone even sometimes my family as well. I lost my dad at a very early age and that's when my life changed completely. I became obese from then on. I tried a lot of ways in which I can reduce my weight. I had even starved myself but didn't work. I was always told that I am a waste of time. People will never like me. But now when I am in my late 20's I am trying to look myself in a different way than others. Sometimes I fail, sometimes I win. But I try everyday. Never allow anyone to dictate your thoughts. Because you are more than your body
excitedTomatoe7
Thanks for sharing your experience and I couldn't agree more

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