hi

hi

what do you think you don't think like 'normal'?

I don't think same thing that my coleaques and people around me think. I am weird. when they. have discussions, they know what to reply, but I don't think about anything, just straight foward

however you think, has it ever harmed anyone in any way?

I don't think so, but it makes them feel am a coward or a kid

so people find your behaviour weird?

yes, and it makes me feel shy

its as if I am not from this world

what behaviour do they find weird?

I don't know exactly, but no one seems to be close to me. I am too quiet, cold and not social. I don't also know how to hang out with people. And I don't. trust people easily

were you always anti-social?

I grew up being. indoors mostly because my parents never wanted us to mingle with others, my father was very harsh at us and never wanted to see us outside, so I guess that's what made me not to learn how to talk like normal people. But my elder bro is free with people, why me?

because everyone is different, maybe he was able find the people he could relate to, but it does not mean that things were easy for him, don't consider yourself any less, you can also be like him.

No, he has just been jovial and made friends, but am introverted.

that's the reason, why you can't communicate with people and seem cold and distant.

what. should. I do?

I can't. trust any one, And I feel shy to approacch. people, I am afraid of insults and embarrasments, they. always. insult. me

see to make friends and communicate with people, 1) you need to have something to discuss, so increase your boundaries and knowledge, 2) you don't have to make a lot of friends, not everyone is going to understand you, stay with people who you are comfortable to be with, now you have to find these people and take risk, you can't get good friends if you don't take risks, 3) don't let those people insult you, set boundaries, it will hurt people but will also stop them from hurting other people, 4) speak out if necessary or if you can, you don't have to give a long reply for every discussion, 5) think before you speak, sometimes even though your motive was to help, you end up making it worse,

Thanks, I'll try, but what about me not being so social and jovial, won't. that affect. my life. because I don't always know what. to say or do

it won't, once you find the people who will accept you for who you are, you won't even care about being jovial or social.

okay,

What should I do about having a too-soft heart?

Like, I can't scold people when they offend me and at times I don't feel angry at all, I just try to understand their reasons for offending me, which I see as a weakness

It makes people not take me serious and think am joking when I tell them I've had enough

raise your opinion and don't keep it shut, when you get offended, tell that to the person in an assertive manner, don't feel guilty for doing this, if their is a reason, understand and analytise it, but let the person know that you are hurt and uncomfortable and would be grateful if they didn't showed this behaviour in the future with you.

Thanks

anytime 😊