married the wrong person

Question

married the wrong guy, got into wrong family, feeling stuck, dont know what to do

inadilema · Answer

why are you feeling so? what happened?

priyaverma · Answer

toxic mother in law and sister in law, my husband is seeing everything but being unfair

tubu · Answer

when you take big decisions in life we generally subconsciously do our math and take them..so normally those decisions are right..revisit that moment in your life on why you said yes..family is only 1-2% of your time so they come second

satesh · Answer

may be u r right. may be u require more time to adjust and create better understanding. talk to ur husband clearly and find out common ground to stay together

inadilema · Answer

achha..... r u staying with ur in laws?

tubu · Answer

try to mend your relation with your husband..don’t expect him to talk back to his mom but if he understands your problem and acknowledges it, that’s the right signs

priyaverma · Answer

i said yes because loved him, wanted to spend life with him but after marriage his family became priority over me

satesh · Answer

I feel it's not also easy for man to take sides. and parents r always priority and no man wanna hurts their feelings. it's all about creating fine balance btwn u n them. so u can talk to ur husband and if he understand u in person then things will be fine after some time

priyaverma · Answer

tried taking to him every possible way, not helping

tubu · Answer

I can give a perspective..look girls are always emotionally more matured and organised than guys. he had his mom as the priority in his life. after marriage both you and his mom are his priorities.And when the priorities fight, that guy is always in a spot of bother..it’s a very difficult act to keep up..talk to him clearly..tell him that he doesnot need to go against his mom, just an acknowledgement that you are suffering and you are being wronged here will go a long way for you

satesh · Answer

ok. look more important is to make marriage work. look for how u can not make them feel bad and on what issues ur mother in laws fight with u. if it help then good and if it persist continue then u can take  further decision to be part away or not

cockylizard3 · Answer

Heya divide the things specifically

priyaverma · Answer

i am well educated, working, earning good, i take care of the house, my son, my family, cook, clean. I work all day but still my in law's are not convinced. my MIL feels that my maid is more hardworking than me. he likes her ovr me. and on the other hand my sister in law, who is elder than me cannot even make a cup of tea for herself.

cockylizard3 · Answer

try to love yourself more

cockylizard3 · Answer

u r doing a lot for everyone but what about you

satesh · Answer

looks if u r well earning, then dont listen to them. ignore them. say whatever they wanna say. who cares. and do what u like to do. I know after kids it's difficult to take decision but u can take decision based on ur financial position

inadilema · Answer

it's not dat ur mother in law is not liking you.....look from her perspective.....i feel she is feeling quite insecure as her son is in love with you. she might be feeling that she may lose her son if she also started behaving well with you. so, don't bother about her words,think dat she is in pain and fear that's y she is hurting me and talk to her nicely. try it whole heartedly for somedays.

humorousicecream1 · Answer

try to make him a good person if he doesn't wants to change,just move.onn

androidgamer · Answer

same here 🤦🏻

excitedTomatoe7 · Answer

Move out with your husband and son if possible. These kind of people are the reason why girls are scared to get married. There's way too much societal domination. But you need to be assertive and firm. And once you stop making tea for your sil, she'll make it herself! You're not a house help, you're a respectable DIL. Don't let them overstep their boundaries

i am an immature person so don't judge me i am mental patient

Frustrating

help me please

how do I change for the better?