my boyfriend left me for no reason

Question

I'm 26 f. am in a relationship with a man I met online for 3 years. I am seperated from husband. he knew it very well. but it's a problem for him. he doesn't want to talk to me at all. things was not like this even a week ago. but now he is treating me like trash. i never had a second thought about him. and we always used to talk about our future. when we had fights he always used to say I don't want this relationship. but somehow we got back together time and again. but now he is desperate to leave me. i dont know what to do. i tried to confront him. but he is like ' I left you a log ago' you are no one.we don't have anything. in past 3 years I thought nothing but about him about us. but everything is shattered now. i feel ugly i feel worthless. help me.

bearwiththickhead · Answer

you both live in same city?

nira9699 · Answer

no. he lives 1000 km away. but we used to meet once a year

suku · Answer

I feel sorry for you dear. but we can't force someone to stay with us or love us. But you may ask him what happened ?? and why is he behaving like that way. and if he has any issue try to solve with mutual consents

achuontrack · Answer

something or someone must have influenced them. I think it's better u give them some time to calm down and change for the good. Don't think that there's something wrong with u. just give them space, they will come out. if he completely wants to part from u. no one can stop. so i am requesting u to stay strong. things happen for our own good.

bearwiththickhead · Answer

oh, have you gotten to a point of physical intemacy Or it's purely mental?

nira9699 · Answer

suku..i tried to talk. but he said I'm seperated thats this problem. i was once married that's his problem. but he knew is from beginning

suku · Answer

i think he just wanted to do timepass with you. because one who loves you doesn't care about your past

bearwiththickhead · Answer

okay you don't need to answer that question, I get it now, the guy has social insecurities. The idea of Marrying a divoced person gives a lot of people anxiety. If I were you, I would not go anywhere near that dude.

nira9699 · Answer

but I love him from past 5 days I haven't eat, slept.. my world is shattered my heart is broken in a thousand pieces. whenever I text him he shoooos me like a dog.  and no physical intimacy was there. only mental. i feel secure with him

nira9699 · Answer

that man was so caring even a week ago. i dont know what happened. and when I asked him about that he said he wanted to leave me from a long time

suku · Answer

hey

nira9699 · Answer

hi suku

bearwiththickhead · Answer

okay, usually when one partner does that to another, it's because they don't want to take responsibility. And, you will understand this, 'Responsibility should not be imposed, its voluntary'. And if you don't feel like eating, that's because your body is preparing for another version of future, one that your mind hasn't accepted yet. I think you should talk about it, and you will feel more confident about your next decision. There are listening parties every night from 8pm. Join that, you will not have to show your identity, there will be people who have something to share. you will feel better.

suku · Answer

i know its hard but you have to stay away from him now coz its toxic for you

nira9699 · Answer

i just need a hand to hold and a shoulder to cry. i want to be loved I want a family.

bearwiththickhead · Answer

Feeling that is genuine. Do you have a job?

nira9699 · Answer

no I don't have a job..

bearwiththickhead · Answer

how will you afford a family?

bearwiththickhead · Answer

so if your boyfriend were to marry you, he would have to take care of you financially, emotionally, physically and socially?

nira9699 · Answer

i dont have a job right now but I'm willing to do one. i have few properties

suku · Answer

hey

suku · Answer

you have my shoulder

suku · Answer

you can talk to me more

suku · Answer

i may take care of yourself feelings

suku · Answer

if you want to

bearwiththickhead · Answer

you know nira, people suck, they will only come to you if you are happy, and If you are struggle to find happiness, every intemate relationship goes at risk.

bearwiththickhead · Answer

Your story is very inspirational, work on making it even more strong. When you get stronger, no family can deny your love!

bearwiththickhead · Answer

You should join the listening meeting tonight, all the members of this app will be there to listen to everything you have to say!

nira9699 · Answer

I'm tired of crying begging .. now it feels like it was a joke for him. i was a happy soul. he says go back to your husband don't expect anything from me.

nira9699 · Answer

ok i will

bearwiththickhead · Answer

yeah, that dude totally sucks

suku · Answer

hey nira

suku · Answer

you on any social media ?

i am an immature person so don't judge me i am mental patient

Frustrating

help me please

how do I change for the better?