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excitedTomatoe71maybe she is just scaring you so that you don't indulge in sexual relationships
ShyEmily13no she isnt scaring me i thought that too at first. but she is serious like its no big Deal doing it with her friends around- excitedTomatoe7is there any reason behind this?
- ShyEmily13Well i turned 13 few days ago thats the only reason i Was able to find after thinking all Day. i never had a bf or something that could make her think i'm active in this way
- excitedTomatoe7tell her you're not comfortable
- ShyEmily13i did like i said in my Post i told her i'm scared and embarrassed but she only said you dont need to be and thats it
- excitedTomatoe7well if you haven't done anything then there's really no reason to be scared. you can trust the doc and your mother. you can ask her not to call her friends along though
- excitedTomatoe7the friends' presence is uncalled for
- ShyEmily13i told her it scares me even more having her friends around but she again just was like its fine if they are around
- excitedTomatoe7maybe you can take the help of an elder sibling or someone in your family who can talk to your mother
- ShyEmily13i have no siblings i tried to talk to my aunt but she Was only like i will be there too you dont need to be affraid even if there are a few more people around seeing it happen if you dont have anything to hide you dont need to be scared to have people around when it happens
- excitedTomatoe7that sucks. what country are you from?
- ShyEmily13i'm from Europe i would prefer Not to say the exact country. I'm just so scared cause my mom has a lot of friends and i know at least about 7 she invited+ my aunt and if my aunt talking about a few more people around me it scares me a lot
- excitedTomatoe7I see. These practices are customary in some countries. I'm not aware of it as it is not much prevalent in my country. Just be adamant if you don't wanna go. Go to school or go to a friends'place. Just resist going if you don't wanna go. You don't really have any other option here
- ShyEmily13Was my idea too but i'm grounded until its over.
- excitedTomatoe7Try to come up with ways to convince your mother. That's all you can do
- ShyEmily13it seems like she already have a fully plan and then there is no way i can stop her😭
- excitedTomatoe7Then just get it over with
- ShyEmily13will it take long?😪
- excitedTomatoe7I've no idea. Like I said, this is an uncommon practice in my country. I just looked it up online. It shouldn't take too much time. These kind of practices have been banned in my country by the court. I don't understand why people rely upon these tests even in 2023! Anyhow, it'll be quick I guess. Don't worry about it, ok? You'll be fine
- ShyEmily13Was it Banned cause its painful?
- excitedTomatoe7No. it was banned as it violates the privacy of a woman.
- ShyEmily13okay 😪 but promise it wont hurt and will be over soon?🥺
- excitedTomatoe7Also these archaic tests aren't accurate or reliable
- excitedTomatoe71Yes, it won't hurt and you'll be home soon. Don't worry. if you need help with anything then I'll be here for you. you can come back to this post, ok?
- ShyEmily13okay i dont know i dont even know what to expect to happen 😰
- excitedTomatoe7Just relax and get it over with
- ShyEmily13i wish i could relax but i'm thinking about how many people to expect there and whar to expect to happen and everythings. its middle of night but i'm so scared i cant even sleep
- excitedTomatoe7When's the test?
- ShyEmily13next week i don't know the Day yet i only know its in the afternoon so most off my moms friends will have time 😭
- excitedTomatoe7Ok. don't stress yourself out
- ShyEmily13but what if there are All my mom friends? like that could be easy 20 or more persons 😭
- excitedTomatoe7there's no point stressing on that either. if there's no way, you might as well get it over with. don't bother who is around. if you want you can request the doc for some privacy and not have all these women watch you
- ShyEmily13i think i will be to scared asking for anything at this moment. but Do you think i should expect All of my moms friends to be there?
- excitedTomatoe7no
- excitedTomatoe7this isn't your wedding. don't expect a huge crowd. you have no reason to fear
- ShyEmily13like how many Do you think would be good to expect?
- excitedTomatoe7I've no idea. depends on whom your mom calls
- ShyEmily13Well i know she invited at least 7 friends but she has a bit about 20
- ShyEmily13i'm just trying Do calm myself down by trying to prepare on whats possibly gooing to happen
- excitedTomatoe7I'm sure they all won't even show up
- ShyEmily13like probably only have of her friends?
- excitedTomatoe7Maybe
- ShyEmily13So it would be good if i prepare myself for Not beeing suprised Meeting 10 of my moms friends there?
- excitedTomatoe7I don't know how many will show up. No one might even come. you're thinking way too much
- ShyEmily13i just try to prepare myself it helps calming me to prepare on whats most likely going to happen
- ShyEmily13i know you can't know but i thought maybe you can guess or Tell me if you think my guesses sounds realistic
- excitedTomatoe7Yeah. don't think about it. listen to some songs or distract yourself
- ShyEmily13i wish that would help 😪 by saying it will be over fast Do you mean like its a Thing of seconds, Minutes or hours?
- excitedTomatoe7minutes
- ShyEmily13and just sitting there Hours with All the people waiting to get called in?
- excitedTomatoe7I've no idea. like I said, this isn't a prevalent practice in my country
- ShyEmily13i know sry i just wish it would at least be like arriving and walking through without Waiting 😣
- excitedTomatoe7It'll be over soon. Don't worry
- ShyEmily13Do you have any idea what the room it happens at will be like?
- excitedTomatoe7No
- ShyEmily13hopefully it will be a room and Not just a curtain
- excitedTomatoe7yes
- ShyEmily13mh Do you have any idea what the doctor is going to do after we all got called inside?
- excitedTomatoe7no
- ShyEmily13i dont even know what to wear 😣
thrilledfalcon2hi buddy relax if you didn't did anything stay calm- thrilledfalcon2they will test you in a particular room and ask a female doctor for testing
- ShyEmily13hey Well it still happens no matter that i didnt Do anything
- thrilledfalcon2what are you afraid of
- excitedTomatoe7wear whatever you're comfortable in
- ShyEmily13dont know what to expect and how many of my moms friends will be there and stuff. you seem like you already have experience with it?
- thrilledfalcon2no I am also having a sister who is 14 years old and I can understand
- ShyEmily13oh okay and you have experience with it through your sister?
- thrilledfalcon2no that not the case though well it is a quite complicated topic to discuss can we discuss somewhere else
- thrilledfalcon2are you on insta
- ShyEmily13no i'm Not at insta sry. something Else probably?
- thrilledfalcon2aa telegram or snapchat
- ShyEmily13telegram sounds good, whats your Name there?
- thrilledfalcon2did you message me
- ShyEmily13Well i hope it Was you
- thrilledfalcon2I didn't get any message can you tell me your name on telegram
- thrilledfalcon2see I messaged you
abjecttomatoe4ur mother wants such a thing really. in this century such type of people is also.i don't think so- ShyEmily13does anyone here has experience with it and some first Hand Informations?
- ShyEmily13i'm going to talk to my mom and aunt again at Breakfast and See in i can get any more Informations
humorousMagpie7such a toxic mom u have- humorousMagpie7she dont deserve to have a daughter
- humorousMagpie7it can cause trauma u know
- ShyEmily13can it?
- humorousMagpie7yes
- abjecttomatoe4shyemily 13 I think no one has experience such a test in our country
- humorousMagpie7dont let it happen to u
- abjecttomatoe4it is banned by court in our country.
- ShyEmily13i wish it would be Banned here too and i have no choice about let it happen or Not
- abjecttomatoe4u can get more information about this this by you tube
- abjecttomatoe4I understand from what u suffer
- ShyEmily13my mom blocked Youtube for me so i cant 😔
- abjecttomatoe4search in browser
- abjecttomatoe4about this
- humorousMagpie7its just so disrespectful to dp that to someone
- humorousMagpie7like u gonna force people against their will
- ShyEmily13telegram? is it first Hand Informations?
- humorousMagpie7and nobody cares how it affects the person
- humorousMagpie7see i know its difficult to protest but sometimes u have to
- humorousMagpie7see u have a life and dignity dont let anyone take it away from u
- humorousMagpie7u dont need to agree to anyone they all toxic people
- humorousMagpie7resist , protest , run away but just stop it
- ShyEmily13i can i'm grounded Till its over and my Familie will force me to go there
- humorousMagpie7tell them dont exploit me
- humorousMagpie7just make up your mind and say no
- ShyEmily13dont you get it? it doesnt matter what i say i cant get away and they dont care what i say 😭
- humorousMagpie7can u call helpline no
- humorousMagpie7any women helpline
- humorousMagpie7is their any adult who can intervene here
- humorousMagpie7i would say run from that place if u can
- humorousMagpie7and stay somewhere else for some days
- humorousMagpie7u can use scare tactics like scare them
- humorousMagpie7what kind of abusive people are there
- humorousMagpie7run away and hide
- ShyEmily13and again i'm grounded i cant leave the house
- humorousMagpie7r u trapped
- humorousMagpie7can u talk to that doctor
- humorousMagpie7and explain to her that this is all forced and against your will
- humorousMagpie7maybe she will try to help u and stop those people from exploiting u
- ShyEmily13its Not illegal here so the doctor will do what my mom says and also i cant talk to him cause i dont know where my mom made the Appointment
- humorousMagpie7call the police if u have to i think this is crime
- humorousMagpie7try to find out from papers and all
- humorousMagpie7try to pretend to fall sick or like fainting to scare them
- humorousMagpie7and it is affecting your health badly
- humorousMagpie7stop eating also show how depressed u r
- ShyEmily13great you scaring me even more just cause you cant except its Not a Crime here and its legal forcing your daughter to do it here....pls just leave if you have no helpful Information and just want to make me Panik even more
- humorousMagpie7write a letter in which u show how much it is disturbing for u and against your will and it someone forces me i will harm myself write all and hand it to the doctor if all else fails
- humorousMagpie7tryna help u
- humorousMagpie7u are a kid and it is not at all acceptable
- humorousMagpie7there is no possible test to prove this do u know girl
- humorousMagpie7coz the hymen can even be broken by cycling , horse riding or exercise etc it is no sign of virginity
- humorousMagpie7the doctors are dumb too who does things like this ? which time are they living in ?
- ShyEmily13i now know who is invited to it 😔
- ShyEmily13thx 😔
- ShyEmily13i know that my whole Familie and All of my moms friends are invited and also my whole Familie can bring friends too
- ShyEmily13its going to happen on friday afternoon 😰
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