Stuck!!

Question

so there's this guy who s the closest person in my life. it started with friendship. we started becoming close he always used to say we cannot marry due to some restrictions in his family but still we became close and now I feel like I cannot live without him or marry some other guy. but he is very clear that he is not gonna marry me. I was in a hope one day he will change and take a risk nd ask to marry me but he didnt. we are so close he loves me alot but still he says that he can't marry me bcs of family. I'm stuck here. I couldn't move on bcs it feels so heavy and I get anxiety just for the thought of leaving him. I cannot force him to marry me. I don't know what to do.. my parents are forcing me to get married. I dnt want to ruin someone's life by marrying bcs I cannot get over of him. this is pushing me to the edge and I'm having the worst time.

suku · Answer

it's okay it happens.

suku · Answer

you just need to focus on yourself

suku · Answer

what is good and what is bad for you.

suku · Answer

see the person has already told you that he is not going to marry you. ultimately he will leave you. there is no commitment. one day or other it will gonna happen that he will move on and you will stay alone

suku · Answer

so end up he doesn't love you. love doesn't see any barrier. he is using you and doing his timepass

spiritedpudding3 · Answer

yes! but now that I have decided to stop talking to him to get a closure. it's been a day. already I'm feeling so stresses out. I m feeling so alone. My life was around him. now to let it go it's very difficult

suku · Answer

you are being making yourself emotional fool

suku · Answer

it is only a day that's why you are feeling this. afterwards when you will look back you will see that how fool you were to be with him.

suku · Answer

don't feel alone. umm i am here for you. you can talk to me

spiritedpudding3 · Answer

I have taken this decision multiple times. after few days I will feel like I can't live without him or if he texts or calls me I will just think like y to spoil the friendship that we have and starts speaking to him again we will be like before and when the truth hits, I will feel bad.

suku · Answer

ask yourself. a question who's life is going to be wasted behind such person who is not ready to be with you whole life. even if they love you. nobody does so. if they say so only they are only with you for a purpose. if they don't get it from you they will move to someone else

suku · Answer

heyyyyy.. if you will be in contact with the person you will never ever gonna move. he will keep using you. and make you emotional fool . it's just your emotions that's why you are afraid of losing him.

spiritedpudding3 · Answer

my friend had the same situation like me. her Friend was also not ready to marry her even though they liked each other. but that guy told her that he will fight for her and marry her only. when I heard that it broke me, I'm happy for her of course. but they were not close like us but still that guy s ready to take risk. so when I discussed the same he said the same again his parents won't agree nd all

suku · Answer

if you and your friend are in same class like 5th class you both have Same syllabus and same exam paper then your answers can be same...... but in life there is different situations and different questions paper, different problems , different solutions. if you are gonna rely on others same situation you are not going to pass

Ruthy · Answer

I'm so sorry that you are going through this ....really...I feel like if he really loved you he'd take the risk, he'd want to be with you for life....I think you should give yourself space to really think about what you want for yourself.

suku · Answer

love is based on commitment. why do we love ? to be with that person for life. not just for sometimes

spiritedpudding3 · Answer

I know, I am not expecting my life to be like hers. but when my friends are getting married to their loved ones by fighting and I'm not able to do so. I don't blame the guy because he always told he cannot marry me. but somewhere I had the expectation that one day he will change nd he will take a risk. there was some situation in his house he told me that too. but when you love someone truly won't u feel like taking any risk just to spend rest of the life with that person. if I think like that I feel like is he truly in love with me. I won't say he is cheating me because he was never committed

suku · Answer

yeaah i got your point.

suku · Answer

i understand what you are saying

spiritedpudding3 · Answer

my life was all good, I was in other toxic relationship before. It took hell lot of time nd energy to come out of it I never really moved on from that. and now the situation is like this. I really lost hope in life. I stopped loving myself bcs of all these. I have a fear if I lose him too I couldn't control myself.

suku · Answer

if you decide to leave him. and you feel alone. you can text me I will be there for you. my insta I'd volleysuku26

suku · Answer

don't overthink i guess. that fear you have inside will never allow you to take steps

suku · Answer

let me tell you a thing. set the love free ..... if he truly loves you or cares for you he will come back for you. if they never did or they don't they will not make any efforts

spiritedpudding3 · Answer

Yes! and it takes so much efforts to stop myself from talking to him. I'm feeling lik stuck in this loop nd couldn't move on in life. I need to love myself nd work on myself but end up thinking abt these issues nd blaming myself for these.

suku · Answer

you are on instagram ?

spiritedpudding3 · Answer

thank you for responding it helps alot

spiritedpudding3 · Answer

yes I'm on Instagram.

suku · Answer

volleysuku26 DM me

suku · Answer

okay then I think you don't wana talk so be happy and keep smiling 😊😊😇

i am an immature person so don't judge me i am mental patient

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