u tried both .... soo have u observed the outcome..?
shiningstar23
hello, there are times when the loneliness is very helpful but when I feel submerge by negative faults, I want to have someone around and these are the times when I normally don't have anyone. I hesitate to seek for company because I haven't shared my trauma with these people and I don't really have friends. I don't want to impose or disturb the 2 friends I have
lovesickporpoise2
that's something....how should I explain...bit kinda same with me ...that sharing part
shiningstar23
I'm so confused that I don't know what to do. should I be alone or surrounded
lovesickporpoise2
bhai I'm also facing ye loner wala stage
shiningstar23
How should we deal with that? I don't have any hobbit or passion so
lovesickporpoise2
it's like as we start living alone we become independent
lovesickporpoise2
but ultimately sometimes we feel we need someone but we are lonely
lovesickporpoise2
felt this way..?
shiningstar23
yes I do
lovesickporpoise2
u want to talk if u want we can
whybother
Heyy! I completely resonate with you. I have been in n out of this half-baked loneliness feeling where if I am too alone, I feel queasy and just want to hold someone and when I am with people for long it gets too overwhelming too fast. If this sounds familiar, we can talk about it :)
shiningstar23
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would be great to talk about it
whybother
I have been thinking a great deal about it for a while now. I read somewhere online, that nobody is an entire introvert or extrovert. We have multiple traits and they come out as per situations so it's totally okay to feel lonely at times and overwhelmed at others. If it bothers you much you can create a system where you are controlling your exposure to people as per your accordance. Like for example, you can start with enaging in groups related to a hobby or even one related to your work or something. Start with one hour a day and see how it feels like. Online communication is better controlled so start with that. This worked for me this last month. I have joined a couple of groups where I simply engage for a while and just stop when I don't want to. I even took it up a notch by taking a solo trip to the hills. I made a few friends on the first two days and the next two I just enjoyed the nature's beauty all by myself. So you can try that. Also do tell me more about what exactly you feel when you think about solitude?
shiningstar23
that's a great idea. I've been willing to do to the mountains and enjoy nature but I'm not too keen to go alone as it can be dangerous. The solitude is mostly when I need people with me, that's the moment I can't find anyone. I have difficulties making new friends although I'm seen as more extrovert than introvert. Also, I don't have any hobbit which makes it more difficult to join a group whether online or not