Joyashree, let me begin by saying that it takes a lot of courage to understand oneself and accept. You have been very brave. How can I support you in this? Would you like to tell me some more about your experience?
Mam I don't know what to do..... I accept myself but my family will never.... I am in depression for my future And I can't concentrate in my study from many months.... I want some advices
Joyashree, how old are you?
I am of 16
Could you try and articulate what are some of your worries about you future that are causing depression?
My society,parents,and relatives are the most problems of my depression..... I always think that I'm a guilty of being lesbian.... And my parents will be shamed for me... Sometimes suicidal thoughts came to my mind.....my brother is also a gay... My parents didn't accept him and separated him from our family... They always told me not to be like him.... But unfortunately I'm like him.... This is the cause of my depression
It must be very difficult for you to have to know the resistance you will face from your parents and society. It takes a great deal of courage to embrace our true selves even when others may not accept us.
Here are some things that you can try and do to navigate through this better:
1. You mention that you feel a lot of guilt for being a lesbian. You did not choose to be so. And there is nothing wrong in being one. So let go of the guilt and shame. That begins with self compassion. Exercise self compassion in life. Remember that you have nothing to be guilty of.
2. While it is unfortunate that your parents will be hurt, that in no way implies that you have done anything wrong. Try and seperate their experience of this from your own. How they may feel about this does not define you.
3. Surround yourself with people who are supportive. If it helps, would you consider reaching out to your brother? Offer him the support that you yourself would want.
4. Try and connect with other people through forums and support groups for LGBTQ+
In being who you are, you haven't done anything wrong. I hope this gives you the courage to face your family and society, build a supportive network and live healthy and happy relationships.
Thank you so much mam
Joyashree please don't lose hope. I can understand it must be really very very hard for you to tackle the situation coz our society and parents don't accept and do not believe in such kind of love. But believe me one day everything is going to be alright. Everyone is born to live not just to survive. God will heal 🙏
Thanks dear for your blessings 🙏🙏🙏
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best solution in my opinion is just wait untill u finish ur graduation. get a job and then tell them ur lesbian. at that time ur earning and u have ur own life and they are not paying for ur bills so they have no rights to oppose u
main bhi gay hoon
Main 18 saal ka hoon
Mujhe bhi same problem hai
Mujhe lagta tha ki ye attraction kuch nahi hai but jab se mujhe is baare me pta chala hai mera halat kharab ho chuka hai.
Joyashree tumhara toh bhai bhi hai mera koi bhai ya behen nahi hai
Meri halat to aur bhi kharab hai